VB_Girl is offline VB_Girl Post #1  February 17,2010, 7:56pm
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Have you ever discussed your online dating relationships with your parents? Did they offer a perspective you found interesting or helpful?

Over the weekend my mom who is 67 told me she thought it was perfectly ok to email for a while and become friends before meeting. She also said that a first kiss shouldn't be rushed and should have some meaning behind it. I'm not sure I agree with her, but it was interesting to find out her thoughts on these two matters.

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Have you ever discussed your online dating relationships with your parents? Did they offer a perspective you found interesting or helpful?

Over the weekend my mom who is 67 told me she thought it was perfectly ok to email for a while and become friends before meeting. She also said that a first kiss shouldn't be rushed and should have some meaning behind it. I'm not sure I agree with her, but it was interesting to find out her thoughts on these two matters.

Your thoughts?
My mom is about your mom's age too...and she had told me years ago to actually take it slow and easy (lol and maybe I'm taking it TOO slow) and don't jump on the first willing girl because in her view....once you go to that altar, it's supposed to be forever. I have a feeling though now that I'm much older, her timeline might be a bit tighter....she wouldn't be opposed of me getting married within two years of dating somebody...assuming my relationship lasts that long LOL
 
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VB_Girl wrote :
Have you ever discussed your online dating relationships with your parents? Did they offer a perspective you found interesting or helpful?
[COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]I did not tell them that I was on eh until a day before a I met my first match in real life because I was afraid of what they would think. My mom is 62. She has been very supportive and is happy I found a different way of meeting guys. My dad is 65 he absolutely hates the fact I am meeting guys off the internet , he is hard core old school when it comes to dating/relationships.. But I know that if I am happy in a relationship and my man treats me right my dad will eventually accept him.
 
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My parents have both passed on....my mom when I was a kid and my dad about 12 years ago.
While they never have offered me any "love" advice, I also had never sought it either.

One of the things I always respected about my Dad is that he never, ever commented on anyone's personal relationships....it just wasn't his thing.
His feelings were that what was between two people was between them, and no one else.
 
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My parents really, REALLY don't like the online dating thing. At all. They've made that very clear. lol
 
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I tell no one. When I show up with a new man, I just say I ordered him from a catalog.

But my parents aren't around any more and the rest of my family has had some pretty clear communication from me on boundaries. Sometimes, when you're single, you are viewed as either the entertainment or the project. I am neither.
 
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My parents have both passed away but both would have supported this. My mom encouraged my uncle, who met my aunt (after his wife died) through print personals (and no pictures!), and my dad became dating site obsessed after my mom passed away.

My other aunt is supportive. The last time I actually met someone on this site was two years ago and it was a month before we met. She said, "why are you waiting so long? If you're over 40, don't wait more than two days -- he could be dead the next day."
 
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My father is 81; he's more into video games (PS3 and Wii), movies, and his own computer to be caring how I meet men. I think he also realizes it's a much different time than when he was single and dating. As long as I'm smart about things and I'm safe, he pretty much leaves me to it--except for the occasional nag to provide him with a grandchild--he really needs to nag the married child already.

My mother is 69; she tells me that I have too much faith in people and that my heart is way too big; that's why I'm always getting it broken. She also tells me that marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be. Granted, she and my father are divorced, but I still find that second statement kind of hypocritical since she will be quite happily celebrating her 25th anniversary with my step-father in October.

I know she doesn't really approve of the whole online meeting/dating thing ("Can't you meet someone who lives around here?" / "No Ma, it's my goal to make you miserable. I was merely dabbling in my teens." ), but she won't say it because she knows it won't change anything. I think she worries about my safety more than anything. However, in the end if I'm happy, she's happy.
 
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I haven't asked my parent's opinion, but they know I am on dating sites. My dad doesn't say anything unless the guy happens to get to the "meet the parents" step. My mom encourages me to go out and find someone.

I think she secretly wants me to get married soon so my dad has the chance to walk one of his daughters down the aisle. My sister probably will never get married, so I'm the only one. My dad will be 80 this year and, although being in good shape for his age, has some health issues.
 
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My mom encouraged me to sign up for a couple of years before I actually did. She was all about it as long as I wasn't doing it. Once I did, it worried her endlessly. But I have to say that my mom, who tends to be a bit negative, was very supportive while I was signed up. (I haven't been for a couple of years now.) She often asked about who I was meeting and what did I think of them.

My dad almost never mentions my dating, online or otherwise. I think he would like to pretend that I'm still a little girl who has never.... (I'm not sure how he rationalizes my 2 kids! LOL)

Both wish I would just hurry up, find the right man, and get married already. I think I broke their hearts a little when I told them at Christmas that it's not gonna happen anytime soon.
 
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