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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #1  February 15,2010, 1:40pm

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Have you been called this? My coworker just mentioned this to me during our walks in the neighborhood...because he assumes I've been single for a while and don't go out on dates much. He asked me anything from height requirements, weight, quirks, and I told him that really I just want a middle-of the road, can accept my quirks...not neccessarily a clean freak but not a slob, nice person...little taller than me is fine and he couldn't still come up with anybody who would be a 'good' match....

Interestingly, this is not the first time I've been called picky...when in truth, I am far from picky (although I don't have low standards either)...I think the label comes based on my length of being single.

How about you, have you recalled being referred to as picky, maybe from what you might've said, etc..
 
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Nope, I'm easy and grateful.
 
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Have you been called this? My coworker just mentioned this to me during our walks in the neighborhood...because he assumes I've been single for a while and don't go out on dates much. He asked me anything from height requirements, weight, quirks, and I told him that really I just want a middle-of the road, can accept my quirks...not neccessarily a clean freak but not a slob, nice person...little taller than me is fine and he couldn't still come up with anybody who would be a 'good' match....

Interestingly, this is not the first time I've been called picky...when in truth, I am far from picky (although I don't have low standards either)...I think the label comes based on my length of being single.

How about you, have you recalled being referred to as picky, maybe from what you might've said, etc..
I'm not picky. It's just that the qualities which used to be pretty common (all qualities I embody) suddenly seem to have become unusual. (not being extremely self absorbed, not being overweight, not having a bunch of illegitimate children before you've reached 30, etc)

If that makes me picky then so be it.
 
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I've been called this. Or rather asked if I am picky. I found it a bit insulting considering it came from a match.
 
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I have been called picky, PY. I think, like you it has to do with the number of years I have been single. Maybe I am and maybe not, but I think the only thing that matters is if I am happy with the choices I have made, not with what other people think. They don't have to live with the choices, I do.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
I've been called this. Or rather asked if I am picky. I found it a bit insulting considering it came from a match.
I'm actually not offended by it....just wondering how they come up to their assumption...ok slightly frustrated at their assumption, but not insulted.
 
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If we are talking picky in the sense of who I will enter a romantic relationship with, then yes I am fairly picky. If we are talking picky in the sense of being uptight about the details of life being done my way, then no I am not picky at all.

I would say that length of time you have been single is an indication of something, whether or not it is pickiness I do not know. It's at least a reasonable theory.
 
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Eh, the guy also compared my question answering style to Sarah Palin, and not in a good way. Could have been the context.

Also, I believe it did come up when we were talking about how long I have been single, or rather the number of men I would date and have a "relationship" with.
 
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I would say that length of time you have been single is an indication of something, whether or not it is pickiness I do not know. It's at least a reasonable theory.
I wouldn't want to know what indication that'd be!
 
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I've been called picky and yes I believe it's because of the length of time I've been single. I have standards that I stick to but I certainly don't think they're ridiculous. My former coworkers have called me picky because I prefer men that are taller than I am, my age or older (but not too much older), doesn't smoke, and a couple of other things. Most of my standards have come about from past experiences, my values, and the way I was raised.
 
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