The Heart of Valentine's Day

The Heart of Valentine's Day

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Joker1 is offline Joker1 Post #1  February 12,2010, 8:18pm

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Kate? That's a power name for me, brings good luck. Ok I'll play nice. Great article, well written and offers excellent solutions for the loneliness that aflicts many of us on Valentines Day. It's very difficult for me as a single affection deficiency really good guy (some things are more important than sex like love) to be single on Valentines Day.



My heart and soul just wants to cry. There I said it. All I want is a hug. Is that so much to ask for? Ok, ok now that you are hugging me I'll slide my hand up to your cheeks and cry! Oops I didn't mean to have a few tears. But baby it's been so long and I'm so happy.


Ok who's my first subject to hug? Btw I'll be volunteering part of 2/14/10 for a cause of mine. NO it's not grouchy men! So who wants a playful Alpha male to call their own? I'm paper trained.
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Babe1369 is offline Babe1369 Post #2  February 13,2010, 4:37am
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I hate to disagree with this article, but Valentine's day sucks when you are single.  The entire world of couples is shoved in our faces and make us feel like there is something wrong with us because we are not one of them.  I have been on a few first dates with men I have been matched up with and could not imagine doing this on Valentines day.  If it was a disaster, I would feel even worse that the whole world is in love and I was not yet again.  Personally, I intend to hunt down the stupid little archer and clip his wings.  Cupid stew anyone?
 
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mrflyer is offline mrflyer Post #3  February 13,2010, 2:49pm
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I don't get why it's any worse to be alone on some fake, overhyped holiday than on any other day.
 
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funman67 is offline funman67 Post #4  February 14,2010, 5:07am
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Ok, let's get real.  First of all it is a Pagan holiday.  Did you know that?  According to:  http://www.essortment.com/all/valentinesday_rmhv.htm
 In Ancient Rome, February 14th was a holiday to honor Juno, Queen of the Roman Gods and Goddesses. The Feast of Lupercalia started the next day. During these times boys and girls were segregated. However, the young people had a custom that began on the eve of the Festival of Lupercalia. The girl’s names were written on pieces of paper and inserted into jars. Each boy then drew a girl’s name from the jar and they were partners throughout the Festival. After being paired, the children would often continue to see each other throughout the year and on occasion even fell in love and got married.
OK, HERE IS WHERE IT GETS REALLY GOOD: Emperor Claudius II of Rome, also known as Claudius the Cruel was having a difficult time recruiting men as soldiers. He believed that the men did not want to leave their sweethearts and cancelled all engagements and marriages throughout Rome. St. Valentine, a priest of Rome at the time, secretly married couples. He was eventually caught, arrested and condemned. He was beaten to death and beheaded on February 14th, around the year 270. Lupercalia was a feast to a heathen God. Pastors and priests of the early Christian church did away with the Pagan custom by replacing the names of the girls with the names of saints. They chose St.Valentine's Day as the day of celebration for the new feast.
So, basically we celebrate a day when a priest who disobeyed a Roman Emperor's law was beheaded?  Ok, sure.  Why don't we celebrate other more important days like say the day we landed on the moon or something?  I don't celebrate any Pagan holidays and this day is no exception!  So, maybe for all of us single or like I like to say PuP's (Persons un-Partnered) out here this gives a bit of insight and encouragement to find a more honorable day to celebrate one's love.
 
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Spider is offline Spider Post #5  February 14,2010, 8:49am
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Valentine's Day has never been on my radar. I cruised through life, single-married-singleagain, without giving it a second thought. I'd see all the red and pink in my peripheral vision, so to speak, but not really think about it. I never saw the advertising as "in my face" reminding me that, "Oh, noes, it's February and I'm not part of a Couple! Spider, you are less than a Whole Person!"

*shrug* I don't think it can bother you unless you let it. Unless you see being single as a horrible negative thing.

So what? Enjoy your own company, read a good book, call your favorite aunt or old classmate, weed the garden - whatever you'd normally be doing. We're alive. Celebrate that.


**Disclaimer: I've found myself feeling guilty this year because I did not get the Sweetie anything for VD. He is an incurable romantic and presented me with jewelry. I was not even aware that today was The Day.
Have given him a stern talking-to that this need not happen again.
 
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Hi Everyone,

Thanks for the comments and feedback. Indeed, Funman67, little is known about the origins holiday (Valentine's Day - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia). I wanted to include some of that information, but it got a little too long.

I’m glad there are some people out there who don’t get anxious over Valentine’s Day – you are fortunate! Because so many people express anxiety for one reason or another around the holiday, it was on my “heart” to propose a shift in focus on this day. I think there is something kind of freeing about seeking out the happiness of someone else. And yes – I believe these types of expressions are appropriate 365 days of the year (366 on leap years).

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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