Ladies: what did your mother teach you about love?


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What did your mother teach you about love, dating, and relationships?

Were those lessons taught by positive example (how to do it right) or by negative example (what NOT to do?)

Looking forward to an enlightening discussion!
 
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Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #2  February 10,2010, 2:17pm
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Unfortunately absolutely nothing. She got divorced from my dad, had loads of new boyfriends over the years, got married and divorced again. Quite a good example to watch regarding what not to do.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #3  February 10,2010, 2:36pm
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I'm just going to mention a couple of things

First that its not all about one person or one persons needs.
The importance of forgiveness.

My parents divorced when I was 12 but neither ever dated anyone else or remarried. My dad has said that to him the divorce was only on paper.

My mom was a very amazing person. I am flattered when people tell me I am like her. And I miss her profoundly.
 
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First, my mom is one of the nicest people I have ever met!

She had 10 children. So, she taught me that birth control is very important! Lol.
 
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cook
clean
be understanding if he hits u
and be even more understanding when he cheats....(poor mom)

however, I do cook and clean very well

OH YEAH
AND
JOY...YOU HAVE TO LET A MAN BE A MAN
 
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The one thing she pounded into me was that sex does not equal love.

If I look at the example she showed me with her marriage to my step father (who IS my dad). I would say that she taught me that equal isn't always equal. He had to take on some responsibilities he didn't like when they got married, same for her, but they did them to make it work. Hmmm, so I guess hard work and dedication to the marriage. And to not be afraid of counseling when the relationship needs it.

OK, so a lot of things. I'm an osmosis type learner.
 
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"Marry in haste, repent in leisure."

I love both my parents, but I have realized that their marriage has always been an endurance test.
 
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My mom taught me that you always need to let your man be open and honest about his feelings without using it against him. You should be the one person he can absolutely be himself around, and feel safe doing so.

She taught by positive example. They had a great marriage, which actually makes it tough finding a relationship that comes anywhere near what they had.
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That it was conditional. As I've gotten older I understand more why my mom was the way she was and I am willing to accept her the way she is today - much more loving.
 
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