Men: what did your mother teach you about love?


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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #11  February 10,2010, 6:30pm

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hankscorpio wrote :
I learned what it's like to be unconditionally loved. Does that count as something?
Absofreakin'lutely. Five stars.

Family in my case is my safe haven...especially my mom/dad.
 
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My mother, bless her heart, is a sweet, strong, cunningly wise woman. She taught me a lot of both good and bad.

Mom admits openly that she became a sterotype that most men love to revile. She changed *completely* the day after she and my father were married from a demure, rather shy and quiet woman to a proud, standoffish, headstrong one. From this, I learned a great deal about caution in dating.

Mom also doesn't fight fair with anybody. The good is this taught me how to deal with people like that, and how to stick to my principles no matter what. The bad is I inherited the stubborn as a post gene from her, and I can argue with anybody endlessly, if I've a mind to. Not the best trait in a partner, I know.

She is also a worrier. She can't stop worrying about everything, and this makes relationships much more difficult. I try not to be like that as much as possible. This keeps me looking for the lighter side of life, and helps me keep perspective. I do not want to turn into my mother this way!

My mother is extremely loyal to her family, though. To the rest of the world, she will defend us from anything, any time, any place, from anybody, no matter what. This is where the practice arguing pays off. This is not the woman you want to deal with when you are on the wrong side of the ones she loves.

Her curiosity has infected her children as well. In relationships, this has lead me that there is always something new to learn from the ones you love. One could go through life with the blase, seen-it-all attitude and miss so much that they could be sharing with their partners. This keeps the conversation going between married people, even after years together. Having your own life does not mean growing apart, it is a wonderful opportunity to grow *together.*

She has taught me many more things. But these are the ones that are most visible to me. *grin* Hopefully, I'll be able to put this stuff into practice one of these days.
 
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hankscorpio wrote :
I learned what it's like to be unconditionally loved. Does that count as something?
Yeah, that's about all I learned as well. Being an only child raised by a single, never married, never really dated any one (while I was around at least) it was just my mother and I growing up. Never really talked about relationships in any way (other than a really awkward "sex talk"). Never had any relationship examples to follow, either good ones or bad ones.
 
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i love it. i say nothing and i get 5 stars. thats like getting a one star on an elaborate post lol

i want more from men on this thread please!
 
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I want to see what D_Lion will post.

I think the moderator found it and deleted it already. Sorry.
 
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My parents, especially my Mom never really told us kids(I'm a middle brother of two brothers) much about love or dating. She felt that us kids should learn personally about everything and not be told what to do or do not because more than likely we are going to be doing the 'do not' part cause you know how teenagers are.(Mind you, I'm 22 now) Tell them not to do something and they'll do it anyway. Though she always did tell us to treat everyone nicely of course so I always assume that it would mean the girl you love.
 
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