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I've noticed, with a few exceptions, that when a woman asks a question in the forum she will "like" or accept the opinions of other women more easily. Same for the men, they will accept opinions of men easier.

Does anyone think this could have to do with the same gender expressing themselves in a similar manner to the OP? Style, bluntness, expressions used, length of opinion, how much support is offered.

Maybe even that the opinions expressed are more along the lines of what the OP actually agrees with anyway?

So, do you think you more readily accept and try to implement suggestions made by your own gender here on the boards?
 
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Great question and no. It's completely dependent upon the person. But for what it's worth, I find myself, in general, agreeing with men more often than women.
 
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It has more to do with the poster and style of writing. If s/he make blanket assumptions that are incorrect I will tell them that.

Sure with the OP you will see them siding with those that support them over those that dont irrelevent of sex.

I think their is a sexual bias in the OPs where women will be looking for validation of their views while Men are looking for answers and explanations.
 
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This is an interesting question.


AndieIsMe wrote :
I've noticed, with a few exceptions, that when a woman asks a question in the forum she will "like" or accept the opinions of other women more easily. Same for the men, they will accept opinions of men easier.

I've noticed that men often rip each other a lot more often than women, and I see men post things to other men that are harsher than they post toward women (I know I do - I find myself cancelling a half-composed post all the time, due to how it may be perceived.)


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Does anyone think this could have to do with the same gender expressing themselves in a similar manner to the OP? Style, bluntness, expressions used, length of opinion, how much support is offered.

But think about specific people? There are some women with a similiar style to mine, and some men with a more "feminine" style ... even if there is a correlation of style to gender, individual variation is much greater.


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Maybe even that the opinions expressed are more along the lines of what the OP actually agrees with anyway?

And the experience is likely to be similar.


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So, do you think you more readily accept and try to implement suggestions made by your own gender here on the boards?

In this case, not at all. I do the opposite.

I don't care what men have to say (except as data points to corroborate my observation of women - and even then I weight my own experience higher.) I do care what women have to say (since that is who I am looking for) - and I care especially what is said by the women I find most appropriate and compatible to me.
 
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But think about specific people? There are some women with a similiar style to mine, and some men with a more "feminine" style ... even if there is a correlation of style to gender, individual variation is much greater.

Where was your style ever defined as not "feminine" ?????
 
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Where was your style ever defined as not "feminine" ?????

I've been here long enough, and some people are confused enough, that the same person has accused be of mutually-exclusive opposite attributes - sometimes on the same night.
 
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I started this thread because of so many other threads asking for the opinions of the opposite gender. A few will comment, but when a member of the same gender posts an opinion, the OP seems to gravitate towards their own gender's opinions and not the general consensus of the gender they were asking to begin with.

I don't think these OPs are looking for validation when they start their threads. I'm not really sure what they think, each person is different, but it does make me think.

And the word of the day is............ GENDER!
 
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It depends on the poster. I don't necessarily agree or side with somebody just because of gender.
 
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I guess I'm weird. I found the guys were more often on the ball for me. Don't get me wrong. There were some wonderful answers from the ladies too, however there were more quality answers from the guys. Just my humble opinion.
 
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