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Muggleciously is offline Muggleciously Post #1  February 5,2010, 4:20pm
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Hi,

I have a question for men out there. This is embarrasing to ask, but it's something that's keeping me from dating.

How important is a flat tummy to men? If you're a man and you've been attracted to a woman and then you find out she has a little tummy pouch when you get intimate, is it a turn off? Is it a non-issue; something you think you'll learn to live with; or something you know you'll only deal with that one time because you'll be out the door as soon as possible?

I'm so self-conscious about my tummy pouch, I simply don't date. I think I'm okay-looking otherwise - everyone says I look thin (they roll their eyes when I say I need to diet), but they can't see my belly that I'm hiding under my blouse (LOL). It's just genetic - exercise doesn't affect it.

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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  February 5,2010, 4:21pm
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Thin is important to me - it matches myself.

When you say you "don't date," you mean if someone asks you out, you decline?
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #3  February 5,2010, 4:25pm
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Your tummy would not be an issue AT ALL with me. Attraction to me comes from within and seeing your personality and learning about you.

Anyone who judges you based on that is very shallow.....
 
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Muggleciously wrote :
Hi,

I have a question for men out there. This is embarrasing to ask, but it's something that's keeping me from dating.

How important is a flat tummy to men? If you're a man and you've been attracted to a woman and then you find out she has a little tummy pouch when you get intimate, is it a turn off? Is it a non-issue; something you think you'll learn to live with; or something you know you'll only deal with that one time because you'll be out the door as soon as possible?

I'm so self-conscious about my tummy pouch, I simply don't date. I think I'm okay-looking otherwise - everyone says I look thin (they roll their eyes when I say I need to diet), but they can't see my belly that I'm hiding under my blouse (LOL). It's just genetic - exercise doesn't affect it.

Thanks in advance.


I guess if I had a perfect body I might feel comfortable judging someone else.

I did go out on a date once and felt the lady was too heavy for me at first glance. The more I got to know her the less it mattered. It didn't take long to discover she was a very sexy person.

A little tummy pouch is about as in important as it gets on my list.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #5  February 5,2010, 5:29pm
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For some men it will be and for some it won't. I don't think getting individual opinions here will be of much use to you. All that will matter is what any men you may date think.
 
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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #6  February 5,2010, 5:34pm
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Be secure, be confident, like yourself. No one has a perfect body... no one (well, Brad Pitt maybe, but I haven't gotten a chance to see all of the up close and personal goodies... yet )!! I wouldn't not date just because my bodies has a few flaws. Mine does, and I date without even thinking twice about it. Then again, if I were to get "intimate" with a guy, we would know each other well enough that we've moved beyond just physical attraction anyway.
 
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Muggle don't be embarrassed to ask anything here on these boards because most likely there's always someone with the same question. I had the same issue as you with the belly embarrassment. I had a set of twins one was 7#2 oz and the other was 7#6 oz full gestational age. I was as big as a house and unfortnuately left with a problem belly that is still with me 14 years later. It didn't stop me from dating and the men I have dated since my divorce 2 years ago (really just 2 men) have not had a problem with it at all. I'm not sure your age but it seems most men over 40 aren't looking for women with perfectly hard bodies.
 
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Muggle, remember different people are attracted to all different kinds of bodies.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #9  February 5,2010, 6:38pm
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I know that when you said "intimate" you meant sex. Intimate and sex are NOT synonymous. If you get intimate with your SO well before you ever introduce sex then your relationship will turn out much better.

Point two, if a guy is troubled by some portion of your body at any time in the relationship and takes off running then he really was not the one for you.

If you want to date then date. Date for the fun of it.
 
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JerryC is offline JerryC Post #10  February 5,2010, 7:17pm
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Certainly wouldn't be an issue with me. I certainly don't have a perfect body. Don't worry about it . Go out and enjoy yourself.
 
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