Nicole1103 is offline Nicole1103 Post #1  January 27,2010, 12:18pm
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I am adamant about NOT dating a man with kids. Is this wrong to post in profile?
 
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It is your preference, so no, it is not wrong to post this.

I might suggest thinking about how old his children are. Are you looking at not raising someone else's young children? What if they are 18 and out of the house? Just things to consider.
 
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I consider you're just being bluntly honest. Should be more of that in dating world. being step-parents is just the pits. I say this as one who has 3 sons; with the younger 2 at home. I tend to avoid women with no children as i doubt they'll understand me. I don't put that in my profile but I have up front in communicating. I'm sure it helps those for whom it is an issue to close. Myabe that what you should do; just close anyone with children, but leave it off your profile as it can be too reaily missunderstood.
 
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Nope, not wrong at all.
I'd suggest wording it in the most positive way possible though; I say something like

"I've not yet had children and strongly prefer to date men in the same situation"
 
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Thanks for the advice.
FairOne--perfect wording! I am adding right now!
 
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Caution.....missing the love of your life because he has children could be your fatal mistake. If you are, as you say, stone set in your wants, then state it.
As a parent of three children, I have had many turn me down ASAP because of the kids. It's not fair, but if that is how they feel, I don't want them anyway. Prefer to have someone be honest than lie and hurt me later.
So go ahead, post it, but beware, you could be passing up the love of your life...
 
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