Women: Settle the "height" thing once and for all


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jonnywalk is offline jonnywalk Post #1  January 23,2010, 3:34am
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I know there is a wide range of female views on this but I want to know how important a man's height is to the women out there. Are there certain measurements that you look for or do you just want a man to be a certain amount taller than you? Do a lot of you like if a guy is exactly your height or maybe just a bit taller or do most of you like a guy that is significantly taller? How short is to short and how tall is too tall?

Personally, I like when the girl and I about see eye to eye (5'7). Do any other women prefer the guy to be her height?
 
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jules6 is offline jules6 Post #2  January 23,2010, 4:27pm
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Hey Johnywalker,
I stand at 5'10 and like dating someone taller then myslef. If i choose to wear highheels I don't want to be thinking am I going to tower over my partner? I just feel more comfortable and secure.
 
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I'm fine with my height (5'8") and taller. I am not fine when they get creative and say they are my height and then I meet them and they are a good 3 inches shorter. (Yes, it has happened)
 
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I'm only 5'3". I like men who are at least 5'9" - but ideally at least 6" tall. Don't know why, I just do.
 
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There's no way to settle this once and for all because, as you pointed out, there are a wide range of views. I know women for whom it's a deal-breaker if the guy isn't at least as tall (or a couple of inches taller). Some of these women are really tall themselves, which means a guy has to be over 6 ft. to qualify. I also know women who are with men several inches shorter than they are. So the only thing that really matters is the opinion of the particular woman/women you are interested in at any given time. My opinion really doesn't matter as far as you're concerned, because it will have no bearing on your dating life.
 
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jules6 wrote :
Hey Johnywalker,
I stand at 5'10 and like dating someone taller then myslef. If i choose to wear highheels I don't want to be thinking am I going to tower over my partner? I just feel more comfortable and secure.
I am 5'7" and dated a guy who was 5'9" for a few months last summer before I stopped at his house directly from work one day. I had on 2-3" inch heels. I had usually worn Ugg boots or flip flops around him, I guess.

He acted all disconcerted that I was now taller than he was. It works both ways, but I prefer guys who are taller so I can
s t r e t c h upward to kiss them. Don't know why.
 
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All men are taller than me...usually...so height is never an issue. I do know one guy that is close in height to me (I am 5'1"). That is really short for a guy - I am not sure what he is but probably 5'3". But he is a great guy, married and just had a baby.

All my brothers are short - and they are fine with it.

Gene Kelly was short. Tom Cruise is short. Short is fine. It is the man that matters.

And most women want taller so just date shorter. lol!
 
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Dear JonnyWalk,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice (eHA) and thanks for posting!

The answer to your question is as varied as the women you will meet!

Don't let a woman's or your height deter you! If you want to ask someone out, do so! You might miss out on a lovely lady by not doing so for whom height is completely unimportant! You will never know unless you ask!

Here's some threads that address this topic:


1. Thread Title: What's the worst thing a person can say on a first date?


Located: http://advice.eharmony.com/?page=view_thread&TID=17858&start=0


2. Thread Title: He lied about his height and it ruined the date


Located: http://advice.eharmony.com/discussions/dating/he-lied-about-his-height-and-it-ruined-the-date/20090121-201001.html


3. Thread Title: Are men honest about their height on dating profiles, or do they round up?


Thread Location: http://advice.eharmony.com/discussions/dating/are-men-honest-about-their-height-on-dating-profiles-or-do-they-round-up.html


4. Thread Title: Having a hard time finding a tall guy


Thread Location: http://advice.eharmony.com/?page=view_thread&TID=20979&start=0



Plenty of guys have married girls taller than they are: Sylvester Stallone, Tom Cruise, Keith Urban, Henry Kissinger, Aristotle Onassis, Dudley Moore, Dennis Kucinich, etc.

I'm 5' 11 3/4" and have dated men shorter than I am! It's not even a consideration for me and is so unimportant in the great scheme of life!

Be confident in whom God has made you to be!

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How can you settle something that varies by individual taste?

My personal preference is someone near my own height. Shorter, taller, not such a big deal. The guys who lie about their height kind of crack me up. Do they think I won't notice that they aren't nearly as tall as they claimed? I mean I know my own height ...
 
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justme27 is offline justme27 Post #10  January 23,2010, 5:31pm
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I'm 5'10 and I dated a girl that was 6'0 tall. lol! It was so funny because she only wore flats. It didn't look so awkward for two reasons:

1) she was rail thin
2) I was really muscular

So in a sense the whole thing balanced out. So, if you don't lift weights, lift weights and you might find yourself having an easier time with taller women.
 
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