Can Love be Sweeter the Second Time Around?

Can Love be Sweeter the Second Time Around?

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Can Love be Sweeter the Second Time Around?


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Idril is offline Idril Post #11  February 21,2010, 8:40am
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Sweetness I guessing mean 'better' in that you learn from the past and the mistakes and don't repeat them.

Personally as a widow I'm hoping for something good if I ever get another chance. I'm not bothered if it's better - it would be lovely if it was 'as good' - I sincerely don't know if I would be happy if it was less. My 1st marriage was very good, not perfect (we always struggled financially and it ended abruptly when he did something stupid and died as a consequence) but it was as good as it can get (for me as it was pretty much what I wanted from a relationship).
 
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This makes sense. Sometimes divorces are about being with the wrong person, but some are due to hard-to-get-along-with personalities. I suppose if you were young , inexperienced and with a mis-match, the next time is better. I think the danger is in repetition of the same old bad habits of your own or picking the wrong one.
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They say that with each successive marriage the odds of getting divorced are higher than in a first marriage. It would seem that objectively the second time around is more likely to be bad.
 
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Idril wrote :
Sweetness I guessing mean 'better' in that you learn from the past and the mistakes and don't repeat them.

Personally as a widow I'm hoping for something good if I ever get another chance. I'm not bothered if it's better - it would be lovely if it was 'as good' - I sincerely don't know if I would be happy if it was less. My 1st marriage was very good, not perfect (we always struggled financially and it ended abruptly when he did something stupid and died as a consequence) but it was as good as it can get (for me as it was pretty much what I wanted from a relationship).


I am so sorry, may I ask what did he do?
 
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I am so sorry, may I ask what did he do?

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He tried to do a speed test on his motorbike (even had the camcorder strapped to the bike), came off at a corner and slammed into a tree and broke his neck amongst other things..., he was only 4 days past his 50 birthday, we knew each other for 23 years.

Sorry -slightly off-topic
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I am hoping for it to be...wiser, more productive, sexier, more wonder-filled...in short, I am hoping for it to BE love, as after coming out of a more than quarter century marriage...I am left to wonder if I even KNEW what love was when I was so very, VERY young!
 
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Idril wrote :
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He tried to do a speed test on his motorbike (even had the camcorder strapped to the bike), came off at a corner and slammed into a tree and broke his neck amongst other things..., he was only 4 days past his 50 birthday, we knew each other for 23 years.

Sorry -slightly off-topic


That is awful for you. I am really sorry.
 
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