Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #1  January 4,2010, 5:03am
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I asked my adult son if I could borrow a photo of his mother/my former wife, Rosemary. I’m sure most you have pick up that we’d divorced, then a few years later she died (cancer).

The other night my son came over for dinner. He bought over a large boxes, stuffed full of old photographs. Rosemary had put many of the good ones in photo albums, and given me copies when we divorces. But these were ones that had never made it to any album; snaps of children being bathed, family parties, wife’s family, the two us when much much younger, me in army gab, folk whom I’d forgotten or hadn’t known, post cards, Christmas cards, my mother and father at our old home, places I knew and other I didn’t, snaps of our wedding, baptism, Rosemary as a child. Faded, torn, blue tac on back, big, small, tiny wallet size photos; all thrown in the boxes higgled piggledy.

I realise my son would not be able to sort them. I didn’t want to either. But who else would sort, clean, file away so they can be preserved for our children some time in the far future; perhaps not until they are grandparents themselves, and I’m long gone.

My younger two sons are away this week (scout camp and working with older brother respectively). It seem an appropriate time as I could scatter them about the lounge room floor. I’m sure you can imagine the “mixed emotions,” with delving 20, 30, 40, 50 years into the past. Memories I long forgotten, or didn’t want to recall.

 
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Hmm... well, mixed emotions or not, I do believe things go as they are supposed to go. You requested a photo. You received a box full.

Take your time in sorting through and more importantly with the contemplation it is sure to bring you.

Perhaps this will be something good for your soul that you weren't even realizing you were needing.
 
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Maybe your kids....or their kids....will one day, years from now, enjoy sorting these. You could just leave them packed the way they are for now.

P.S. I like the one of the kid in red asleep on the chair.
 
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jayjay wrote :
Maybe your kids....or their kids....will one day, years from now, enjoy sorting these. You could just leave them packed the way they are for now.
But if you do that, then write the name/s and year on the back first. The children/grandchildren will appreciate that.
 
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Funny, isn't it, how a box of photos can bring back the moment in time they capture? A smell can do that for me, also.

In the digital age, there won't be boxes of rolled corner black and white pics of fuzzy faced kids no one remembers...we can edit our lives on the spot and take out the blemishes on our face too.

Wonder if something is lost in that progression?

Roxy, who herself has several boxes of pictures she needs to go thru. A good project for rainy January!
 
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Flluellen...Sounds like you have quite a job on your hands. Especially because of the emotions and memories you will experience while sorting through them. I am glad you have them though. Your kids will treasure them, especially if you can identify and record some of the details.

When my divorce started and I moved out, I left a lot of things behind. I just wanted to get to a positive place and just took the things I needed. Since my divorce has been finalized for about 4 months now I am in the process of getting some of my things back, including a a box of "higgled piggedly" photos. Lots of them. My kids are 24 and 17 now. Your post got me to thinking that I should go through and identify and record the details. Thinking of giving the photos of my husband back to him, though. Lol. I don't know. Maybe I should keep some of those too. I'm a little torn about that.

Good luck sorting through all of your memories!
 
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jayjay wrote :
Maybe your kids....or their kids....will one day, years from now, enjoy sorting these. You could just leave them packed the way they are for now.

P.S. I like the one of the kid in red asleep on the chair.


After the past few evenings I feel like leaving them alone. But if you glance at the above (box circle in red) they would have become damage if left as they were. I've been putting them into some expanding porta files. I figure I a later look at the subsection and further sort, label.

I had thought the experience with be a mix of sadness and pleasure, ie, found lots of baby snaps of oldest son, and my own parents with them, and just Rosemary and me smiling in each others company.
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Just to show a few more of my perosnal treasues that I found. The first photo of Rosemary sleeping with 2 youngest is almost identical to one I'd taken about the same time when they were visiting me for access. The other two just show how young we once were.

 
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