drnick3163 is offline drnick3163 Post #1  December 21,2009, 7:30pm
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... realized I shouldn't post it here sorry
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mercury12 is offline mercury12 Post #2  December 21,2009, 7:43pm
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Give up honey.
Go find a new babe who actually appreciates you.
 
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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #3  December 21,2009, 7:50pm
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So you dated her for about a month... how long ago was this? I'm going to assume several months ago now.

I'm sorry she hurt you, but it does take two to make a relationship and she - for whatever reason - decided she does not want to be in one with you.

I don't want this next part to sound harsh, but it is reality and you need to face it. She's with someone else now. You need to let her go and move on. It is affecting your job and your relationships with others. Letting others you work with know about your hurt feelings over this girl was unprofessional, and posting anything at all about it on Facebook was also unprofessional. Take the advice of those you work with and drop it... immediately. It is time to put on your big boy pants and buck up.

If you really can't let it go, you should consider talking to a counselor. Rejection svcks, but learning how to handle it with integrity is part of growing up.
 
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drnick3163 wrote :
... realized I shouldn't post it here sorry
Hopefully you've come to this realization about your Facebook posts and deleted those, too. They would do a lot more harm to you, your reputation and your career than your anonymous post to get unbiased advice from strangers here.

And hopefully you haven't pulled your post because you don't like the responses so far. The best advice is often something you don't want to hear.
 
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Actually I did delete the facebook posts as soon as I saw my friends were upset about it. And I removed this post a minute after I posted it I don't know why it stayed up that long.

As for your advice, well its the same advice I've heard over and over. They say just get over it, well it's not that simple. I'm a 21 year old virgin who has never had a girlfriend. I found someone who seemed perfect and went well for a while and now nothing. I've dated a few women since her but its hard to get over your first. and this past weekend was the first time I saw them together in person and it tore my heart apart. Its easy to say just let it go, and yeah I shouldn't have brought it up, but they saw something was wrong. And I trusted people who I thought were my friends. I f-ed up I know, I just thought maybe people here would be at least a little compassionate.
 
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Well, if you didn't want advice but compassion, you should have said so.

It does hurt to lose your first love. I still remember mine. Eventually it will hurt less and less until it doesn't hurt any more. Time is on your side. It might not feel like it now, but time and distance will make it hurt less. You will love again, and will find someone who loves you back.

I won't give you any more advice since you don't want any, but I am sorry you are hurting and am sending healing thoughts to your heart.

2010 will be a new year, and a new start... for you and your heart.
 
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