"High Maintenance" - what does it mean to you?


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If someone is "high maintenance", what do you think that means? Does it refer to emotional or material matters -- or both, or something else?
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
If someone is "high maintenance", what do you think that means? Does it refer to emotional or material matters -- or both, or something else?
Could be both or either.

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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
If someone is "high maintenance", what do you think that means? Does it refer to emotional or material matters -- or both, or something else?
I think it can refer to both but I think an emotionally high maintenance person is more difficult to deal with. With material high maintenance as long as the person is able to have the things that money can buy them then they are probably happy (at least with the things they posses). When someone is emotionally high maintenance that can be more difficult because when you are trying to keep someone like that happy it can involve so much of your time, energy and emotions just trying to keep them happy and anticipate whatever else they may want emotionally....to keep them happy. It's like it never ends.
 
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I've always thought of a person of high maintenance as someone who is unrealistic. This may be in relation to their goals, ideals, values etc. They are usually a whole lot of one-sided work.
 
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I view "high maintenance" as someone who has a feeling of entitlement;who feels that they are the prize. Someone self centered and lazy. Basically a spoiled princess or prince.
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
If someone is "high maintenance", what do you think that means? Does it refer to emotional or material matters -- or both, or something else?
For me, it's emotional. Somebody needy.

I wouldn't be able to do it. I just don't have the patience. That's completely aside from the fact that I need the man to be stronger than me.

If I wanted a baby, I could have had one a long time ago. It'd be grown and out the door by now.

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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
If someone is "high maintenance", what do you think that means? Does it refer to emotional or material matters -- or both, or something else?
do you mean in a relationship sense?

i think its someone that is inflexible on a consistent basis. not necessarily in matters that are of significant personal importance, ethics or something similar or someone that wants to be catered to unreasonably.

i think its okay to be high maintenance on material matters as long as no one is being devastated financially.
 
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My sister-in-law = High Maintenance. Highest maintenance person I've ever met.

A stay at home wife, rarely cooks dinner even though she has a designer kitchen - makes my brother take her out to eat most nights, kids are grown and long ago out of the house (no one else in the family can figure out what she does all day), has to have the best of everything, perfectly coiffed and colored hair that must take an hour every morning, nails always perfectly manicured, has never been seen without makeup, visited a tanning salon so often my brother bought her her own professional tanning bed for home, highly opinionated about things that do not concern her, doesn't drive (because she doesn't want to, not because she is not able to) so makes my brother drive her everywhere - including grocery shopping, family gatherings are entirely on HER terms.

From comments my brother makes, they rarely have sex (pretty much only if he takes her on a cruise or to Hawaii).

My brother is a great guy, but his life svcks.
 
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qt_py is offline qt_py Post #10  December 18,2009, 5:16pm

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I always thought that a BMW was high maintenance
 
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