churumbeque is offline churumbeque Post #1  December 16,2009, 1:33pm
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I had dinner with a friend last night and we got into this conversation about me having an extreme amount of common sense and she found it intimidating. I have heard this many times before.

Anyway she proceded to tell me how she dumbs down regularly to make her husband feel smarter and like it was his idea. I was shocked but it made sense. I really do not know how to dumb down and sometimes when I try to do it I start laughing because it is so akward. So I am wondering if this is something of the norm for women to do.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  December 16,2009, 1:42pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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lol....so when we get frustrated because our partners say and do really dumb things...it's because they're trying to make us feel smart? I think we'd prefer to give up the frustration.
 
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Can common sense be extreme?
 
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Ha, noo. Sounds fun to watch though. I find that just being plain old nice and friendly is generally enough to counter the intimidation thing. That can take time though.

Now, I do manage to do some pretty stupid things, without trying. . . I think that mistakenly walking into a plate glass window thinking it was a door pretty much convinced my boyfriend that I had nothing up on him. . .

Just try not to hurt yourself :-)
 
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i dont dumb down as much as i try to find people that i think are smarter than i am, which isnt all that difficult.

if you act stupid guys can see right through that, so its better to actually be stupid in relation to him than act phony lol
 
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I prefer the smart ones!!
 
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Personally---I disagree with that. If I marry them I am atracted to them by their intelligence and having conversations with them. The last thing I would want is for her to change and let me win arguments or hypothetical discussions we may be talking about.
 
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SweetKatieA is offline SweetKatieA Post #8  December 16,2009, 2:55pm
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Please don't dumb it down. Ohhhh man. Gag.
 
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Dumbing it down? Seriously?

So basically this is about being someone you aren't to try and win someone else over/make them feel smarter. I'd. Rather. Die. I'm all about being nice, kind, and considerate, but to change to make another happy is never a good thing, and it will lead to a lot of misery. It's fake and plastic. There's plenty of that in the world already.

Be true to yourself. If someone doesn't like you for the person you are, then that person isn't the one for you.
 
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[quote=Nanette;825840]i dont dumb down as much as i try to find people that i think are smarter than i am, which isnt all that difficult.

What if you can't find anyone smarter? I don't mean book smart but street smart.
 
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