Do I look to old and act?


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spinal97 is offline spinal97 Post #11  December 16,2009, 10:36am
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Shelby wrote :
People are getting the impression you are middle-aged because of how you look, how you behave, and how you talk.

Like Roxy said, you should dress like a young man. Doesn't mean you shop at Abercrombie and Fitch, but you could check out the Gap or Target and pull out some graphic T-shirts and V-neck sweaters, maybe a decent pair of black boots or sneakers and a leather bomber jacket.

Do you walk with energy, or do you slump forward like you sit in front of a computer all day? Do you hang back in the crowd?

When you talk, are you knowledgeable about the latest movies, tv shows, sports, current events? Are you interested in the same subjects other 20-something guys are into? Do you express an opinion? Do you have one?

It seems the sum of all your efforts is equating to an impression that you're middle-aged. You may need to refocus your self-improvement strategy to gain a younger self-image.
Yeah, I've always been very mature and tried to act like it. I have social anxiety and I'm really self-conscious when I go out. I try not to do anything to make myself stick out. I don't know how other people do it.

I'm not really into sports, tv or anything else either. I'm not interested in much.

Yeah, I guess everything I do makes me seem older.
 
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RoxyRedhead is offline RoxyRedhead Post #12  December 18,2009, 11:32am

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spinal97 wrote :
Yeah, I've always been very mature and tried to act like it. I have social anxiety and I'm really self-conscious when I go out. I try not to do anything to make myself stick out. I don't know how other people do it.
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Mature people overcome social anxiety.

One hugely important thing to remember is
NO ONE is really looking at you in social situations, at least seldom with a critical mind.

Life is not a movie-and the freaky dialog attributed to hawt chicks in movies is seldom real life stuff.

On a similar thread, I encouraged the poster to simply
act as if
in social situations.

Thats how other people do it--they act cool, they act secure, they act as though they are having fun and eventually they may actually be cool, actually have fun! Cool people move in beat to the music and appear to be having the =time of their lives..but seldom does cool come naturally.
You can say -But that isn't ME, however if the ME you are saving is insecure and shy, no one is ever going to discover your other positive qualities.

By nature I was shy in my youth and I hated it. So I pretended to be Roxy..which is my middle name. Roxy was cool, outgoing and fun, whereas the interior me was insecure and afraid of looking foolish much of the time.

Eventually the Roxy persona and the IRL me merged and a whole woman came out.

Put a little Roxy in your life-
 
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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #13  December 19,2009, 3:21am
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you don't vote GOP do you, cause that'll make ya seem old.
 
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