7 Signs of the Desperate Dater

7 Signs of a Desperate Dater

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vlg22123 is offline vlg22123 Post #161  November 1,2010, 10:06pm
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Yes dating should be a dance but you must learn the game so you can find the one you can dance with ..In between you may meet the players yea ..Be acquitted with the knowledge and insights to not fall prey to the game players .. Perception is reality and some folks views are at the least to say worth avoiding..Thanks for all the helpful tips to keep us on top.... 
 
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fairhelen is offline fairhelen Post #162  November 14,2010, 5:53pm
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I don't don't agree. These are all good for serial daters, for those who like to play games. But who is going to win at the end?! No one. Because, when people truly like each other and want to be together - they will be clingy and not afraid to show it!
 
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Uh oh, If these are real, I guess I am kind of desperate one time. Hahahahaha. Sometimes, though men have the special way to make a woman desperate.
 
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Iamguilty is offline Iamguilty Post #164  December 26,2010, 5:38pm
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I am guilty in a big way. I am a very selective person and when I find someone that seems to have a lot of the things I am seeking, I will pursue like a Lion that has not eat'n for years. I have learned a valuable lesson here and hope I can step it down about 10 knotches. Good Luck to all and God Bless.
 
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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #165  December 28,2010, 9:45am
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I have been guilty lately of feeling like I have to drop my standards, and jettison a few of my "non-negotiables" if I want to find a date. But, what I really want is to find a mate, not just a date, so "settling" is a really bad idea. I'm not going to be happy having to compromise on these big things, so I am going to try to be more aware of that, and not do that anymore. It's hard, because things get lonely, then you feel like maybe you're being "too picky"...  But, I'd rather be alone than feel desperate! Thanks for this great article!
 
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anla1974 is offline anla1974 Post #166  February 17,2011, 4:38pm
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Wow, this site really is good. I saw myself doing this just last month and the guy had zip to offer. It was really lame and had I listened to my conscious and used wisdom instead of all this, I would have cut my losses when we MET. I even managed to pass over a likely better guy to give this person a chance. Too desperate.
 
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fairhelen wrote :
I don't don't agree. These are all good for serial daters, for those who like to play games. But who is going to win at the end?! No one. Because, when people truly like each other and want to be together - they will be clingy and not afraid to show it!
And how successful have you been in dating, since you disagree?


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ginchinyan wrote :
Uh oh, If these are real, I guess I am kind of desperate one time. Hahahahaha. Sometimes, though men have the special way to make a woman desperate.
Not to be overly critical, but that is weak excuse using blame... they do not "make" a person feel desperate, but trigger that person to obsess with how they already feel.

"You" determine how you feel....placing the blame elsewhere is indicative of weakness.

As for the article, everything in moderation... compliments is a hot point for me... it is my opinion that one should never have to "fish" for compliments... if the other is stingy at giving them out, is red flag that they will use things (including sex) for assessment of power. Recommended reading "How full is your bucket"... delineates value of giving compliments and "The five languages of love" demonstrates how each person perceives "love" / affection differently- if you do not know what they value, it is hard to "pay" them.
 
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