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NiceGuysFinishFirst is offline NiceGuysFinishFirst Post #1  December 5,2009, 7:20pm

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2009 has been an emotional year for me. In late October my father found out that he has lung cancer. My father is 55 years old and he is rarely sick. Yet in early October he got back from a trip and I noticed that he had lost weight. He recently had all of his teeth removed before that so he wasn't eating as much as he had before. Not long after that he started coughing and came down with bronchitis. A week later he wasn't any better so he went back to the doctors where they said he had bronchial pneumonia. Another week went by and he still wasn't getting any better. Moreover, his eyes and neck were swollen and he was having trouble breathing. So he went back to the doctors where they had him go to the hospital. They ran some tests and they found dark spots on his lungs. They turned out to be 2 cancerous cells and 1 on his neck.

Now, as you can imagine, this was a huge blow to my family. The day I found out I went home and I cried. I had a nice heart-to-heart with God although I was angry and I vented my anger and frustration towards God. However, after doing a lot of soul-searching I decided that I was going to do whatever possible to rally support for my father and help him kick cancer's ass and become the next cancer survivor. I am optimistic and positive and so is my family. The good news is that as of this date, my father's white cell count is down and so is his swelling. He is undergoing chemo and radiation treatments every week and just started his second round of chemo. We admittedly have a long road ahead of us, but we're going to help my father beat this. If you could, please keep my father in your thoughts and prayers. I told him that I only want one Christmas present this year-him to get better. I also volunteered to donate bone marrow to help him get better, but as of this time there is not a bone marrow transplant or stem cell transplant for lung cancer patients. I would be a guinea pig if I could and if anyone knows about this, please e-mail me.

My father was a smoker for most of his life until 2 months ago. 90% of lung cancer patients are smokers, but did you know that more women than men are diagnosed with lung cancer? You can get lung cancer if you are a non-smoker from asbestos or second-hand smoke. My mother found out last year that she is a type 1 diabetic. So the past couple of years have not been easy on my parents or my family, but my mom is doing what she can to fight her diabetes which she will have to do for the rest of her life. And my dad will beat cancer by fighting it as he has been doing. My sister came down from out of state to help us last month, but I am the one primarily helping out my mom and dad. It is something I do with love and care because my parents are my heroes. They are my best friends. I know that might sound corny, but it is true. My father is the man that I want to be and he has been through a lot in his life. The fact that he is fighting this so courageously...it is no surprise to me, but it only makes me love him more. And when he beats this, we are going to laugh, cry and celebrate tears of joy when he becomes the next cancer survivor to tell his story to the world.
 
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Jeff,

I'm so sorry to hear about your father's cancer.

I don't think it's corny to say that your parents are your best friends. Those of us who are close to our parents can certainly understand that.

I look forward to your post down the line when you tell us that your father has beaten his cancer into remission. Until then, please keep us posted as to how his fight progresses and remember -- we are here for you!!!!
 
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You and your whole family are in my prayers. Sounds like you will have a lot on your plate. It also sounds like you are up for the fight. There are survivors and I look for your father to be one of them. I wish you well. Smile.
 
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Nice Guy, am so sorry that your family is dealing with this. It sounds like you are a very close family and that will certainly help you get through this. Your family is in my thoughts at this time. Please keep us posted.
 
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Jeff,

Your family has definitely been through a tough year. I hope for better days ahead for you all.
 
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Best and sincerest wishes, Jeff. It sounds like you have a strong family, and I admire that.
 
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but I am the one primarily helping out my mom and dad. It is something I do with love and care because my parents are my heroes. They are my best friends
You and your family are in my prayers.
 
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Jeff.. I am dealing with and primary support for my best friend who has stage 4 breast cancer. I joined Lance Armstrongs LIVESTRONG foundation. They have a toll free number to call and you can ask questions about things you might need more information on.

They can also just support you-I call them a couple times a week as I get down when my friend has her chemo and radiation treatments and gets so sick. WE supporters need support also.

My best friends cancer numbers have decreased in just 3 months with chemo/raidation and her doctors think they may have it in control. When I talked to Livestong about the numbers, the woman on the end of the line got as excited as I was. she said "WE all can beat Cancer if we work together" .

Make sure your dad gets second and third opinions...depending on where you live, you might check out a teaching hospital or a big cancer center. My friend went to City of Hope in LA for a 3rd opinion.

I wish you and your whole family the best - and encourage you to be pro-active for both your and your fathers sake.
 
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NiceGuysFinishFirst,

I am very sorry to hear about your fathers cancer. I went through the same thing with my sister in 2008. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope everything becomes good and you see much happeier days forthcoming.
 
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I certainly admire you for sticking close to your parents at this difficult time. Too many people turn and run the other way when times get tough.

Cancer is not the same dreaded monster it once was. That's not to say it won't be a rough road ahead, but I believe there are a lot more success stories these days. I am one of them. Thankfully mine was caught early and was only a stage one.

You are on the right track by asking for prayer. Sometimes you feel so helpless to do anything, but prayer is always something we all can do. You are also a very selfless person to only want your dad to get better for Christmas. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
 
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