peppermint21 is offline peppermint21 Post #1  December 1,2009, 5:20pm
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I'm an INTJ female (apparently we're pretty rare...and apparently we have some issues dating because of our...concrete nature). Considering some of the bumps I've had I'm curious to hear what others think on the subject and how much weight you think personality type has on the dating experience (not so much established realtionships).

Some interesting takes on INTJs and dating...

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Seems like the link you provided says it all already ...

In dating, as in "not so much established relationships"? ...I still think you will find it more enjoyable overall with people who are compatible with your personality type.

It is possible that opposites can - and do - attract, and in a strictly dating situation, can be mucho fun ...but those kinds of relationships (dating or otherwise) are not without their fair share of drama.
 
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I'm not sure I agree with anyone who advises that we should look for a certain perfect personality type matching. But I have noticed that almost all my friends & close family are people with P rather than J personalities. Those who aren't tend to either annoy me or I annoy them. I think being opposite at least on this level could be helpful. I think my natural tendency towards being abrasive or obnoxious is tempered by the diplomacy of P types, and my P type friends like that I'm less indecisive. Two very vocally opinionated people who are quick to make decisions could rub each other the wrong way quite a bit.

But personality type certainly isn't something that is insurmountable. (Except for perhaps one. There's one that it supposed to totally foreign to everything in your type, and I can say I really don't like that personality type at all. It is probably mutual so I'm not worried about accidentally dating someone with that type.)
 
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I am INTJ (former ISFP) and I think we would tend to do best with our "type" in a long term committed relationship but may need someone more outgoing to persevere through the initial stages of dating.

I think personality types matter somewhat, but I also think that people are pretty good at sensing with whom they would be most compatible.
 
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I really thing that there should be something more than 2 ends of the spectrum to really judge compatability. There is a big difference if you score somewhere in the middle vs one of the extreme ends of a field like I-E.

Here comes the next dating site around the cornet...the one that matches your personality types
 
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There were some long threads on the Myers Briggs here awhile back:

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...or-mating.html
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...rs-briggs.html
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...p-further.html

It was fun to see what "type" everyone was. It's really not something that I would take too seriously, though...lol (more like reading a horoscope than a scientifically valid measure of personality...).
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
Here comes the next dating site around the cornet...the one that matches your personality types
lol...totally. I wouldn't give it too much time though. Once looks and income came into play, I'm guessing the matching results would be slim to none.
 
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Yes, this has been discussed,several times.

I am ENFP, which is a) Rare among the introverted eH customers; b) Rare enough to really bug quite a few people (one of the posters described my type as "certifiably insane"); c) In the unlikely event I do have a sudden bunch of matches sent my way, all those shy eH introvered matches will run as fast as possible from me anyway.

I am not interested in further testing of the opposites attract theory. I talk too much/They won't say a word. Etc. When the noise level rises, I am happy. When there is a thick, silent fog, I choke.

Forget opposites. Perhaps this is why so many eH customers complain about their disappointments.

Who knows? Not me. If I did, I wouldn't be here, I'd be collecting $$$$$ with my own satisfied match business!
 
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Hi, Peppermint. I am an INTJ and I think there are quite a few female INTJ's on the boards.

Personally, I think Myers Briggs is great in helping you understand yourself but I don't know that I would use it to rule anyone out as a dating prospect. I also think it would be helpful to understand someone once you are in a relationship.

Of course, I am an INTJ - which means I like anything that makes things make sense!
 
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Another female INTJ! And what Yoga_Gal said.
 
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