PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #1  November 23,2009, 2:06pm

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So my recent funny experience makes me think a bit.

Any of you watched that romantic comedy with Kate Beckinsale in it?(No...not The Underworld although I like her in that black tight leather suit )..it was her and John Cusack experimenting if they were meant to be together, etc. Movie name Serendipity?

So if each one of us supposed to have that 'special someone' who we are meant to be with...eventually fate will meet us up one way or another, right? Anybody disagree? No?

Keep 'em fun 'n light!
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Love Kate.....Love both Underworld movies even more so. Every girl I know who's seen Serendipity says it's a 'great love' story. To me, I get that it's a love story, but the whole.....'they are in serious relationships, while trying to figure out if there is someone better that they are meant to be with' thing kinda throws me off.
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PY_2 wrote :
So my recent funny experience makes me think a bit.

Any of you watched that romantic comedy with Kate Beckinsale in it?(No...not The Underworld although I like her in that black tight leather suit )..it was her and John Cusack experimenting if they were meant to be together, etc. Movie name Serendipity?

So if each one of us supposed to have that 'special someone' who we are meant to be with...eventually fate will meet us up one way or another, right? Anybody disagree? No?

Keep 'em fun 'n light!
I just hope it happens in a painless manner.
 
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SincerelySarcastic wrote :
Love Kate.....Love both Underworld movies even more so. Every girl I know who's seen Serendipity says it's a 'great love' story. To me, I get that it's a love story, but the whole.....'they are in serious relationships, while trying to figure out if there is someone better that they are meant to be with' thing kinda throws me off.
Just my thoughts on it.
Ah actually I've never watched Serendipity...so my understanding of the plot was probably wrong.

I do agree and I don't like the idea of 'let's see if somebody better for us to see if we're meant to be with each other."

My original thoughts was more like say you are looking for your 'mr/ms right' or whatever...and for some crazy reason maybe you were standing by him/her at the station/but you didn't see each other. You wanted to contact him, but his phone went dead, etc...or your ex was going to call you, but his call ended up going through instead, you wanted to contact somebody at EH, but she ended up communicating with you first, etc.pretty much all these coincidences that make me think whether certain things just either push us away, or point us to the right direction.

I don't know maybe I'm not making sense. Just one of my thinking outloud moments.
 
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I like to believe in serendipity. I believe it's what brought my brother and his wife together -- right here at good ol' eH! She'd been a subscriber for a L-O-N-G time and about to throw in the proverbial towel. He was just joining (at MY suggestion by the way) when she decided to give it one more try. Had she not renewed her subscription to eH, they probably never would have met. Purty kewl, huh? Just hopin' it works for me as well.
 
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You are totally making sense....That's the kinda stuff that either makes for great love stories or depressing ones about love lost.
Maybe I need to go re-watch the Notebook to rev up my Emotional IQ!!
 
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That's a nice story, I hope it works out just as great for ya!!
 
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The whole meant to be phraseology has always bothered me. I think the notion that there is "one true love" is probably based on our biology. It's how we feel about someone at the time, then when it doesn't work out for whatever reason, we say it wasn't meant to be. Which sometimes I think keeps people from working on self-defeating or controlling behaviors that will really deep-six any relationship they try. I also think the notion of one true love keeps people in relationships that don't really fit them. I know from experience it is possible to have great love for more than one person in a single lifetime. If you have the right chemistry with them and you spend enough time together creating pleasant moments, love happens.

Not too coherent, but that's my take on your post, PY.
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Thanks Nighling. I was tallking purely from circumstancial stand point...separate from different issue you brought up (about working on self defeating or not wanting to work on ourselves, etc).

Maybe that word 'the one' is not really correct, but I think you got the idea of my original post.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
Thanks Nighling. I was tallking purely from circumstancial stand point...separate from different issue you brought up (about working on self defeating or not wanting to work on ourselves, etc).

Maybe that word 'the one' is not really correct, but I think you got the idea of my original post.
I just don't believe in The One any more. And I actually think the whole concept is dangerous. You can love a scorpion. You can believe he's "The One." Is that your fate to be stung?

No ... it's the biology leading you to feel that way.

You could choose someone with the same chemistry who'd treat you nicer and you'd be much happier.

And will the scorpion take some time to figure out why the relationship didn't work if the stung partner finally goes away?

No ... the scorpion will just say "it wasn't meant to be" and find someone else who'll take the stings for fear of losing The One. And they'll both say it was "meant to be."

The whole terminology of it is circular and defeating and well just dangerous imho.
 
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