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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #1  November 21,2009, 10:24am
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This is part of an answer to one of my Second Questions and no it is not taken out of context:

"I like a man who wears cologne....that is important to me."

Is this not the epitome of shallowness or am I missing something here?

This brings up another question which I have no experience with. I will assume that if it is important to her that the guy is wearing cologne then she probably considers it equally important that she wear perfume. So my question to the ladies would be if you are wearing perfume can you tell (smell) if the guy is wearing cologne unless his cologne is even more powerful than your perfume?
 
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Yes, I think you are missing something here. She likes a man that wears cologne. That is it.

It does not mean she wears perfume, that she is shallow or anything else.

It does not mean that you need to wear cologne if you normally don't.

It just means she enjoys when a man does.
 
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I always wear perfume and yes, I can definitely still smell the guys cologne. I think over the course of a few hours, I become immune to my own scent, so by the time I see the guy, I'm used to my own scent, making his cologne more obvious than my own smell.

I wouldn't say cologne is very important to me as I've dated guys who didn't wear any and that was fine too. However, a nice smelling cologne always makes a guy slightly sexier for some reason.
 
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You may be taking her statement wrong because of how she wrote it. Written communication leaves out many important parts and people naturally fill in those blanks. I know I sure do and it can cause problems.

It sounds like she is just telling you about something she likes in a man. I like women who wear perfumes and I have a favorite cologn I have used for quite a few years.

As to the strength of hers is a matter for you to decide if and when you meet.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
This is part of an answer to one of my Second Questions and no it is not taken out of context:

"I like a man who wears cologne....that is important to me."

Is this not the epitome of shallowness or am I missing something here?

This brings up another question which I have no experience with. I will assume that if it is important to her that the guy is wearing cologne then she probably considers it equally important that she wear perfume. So my question to the ladies would be if you are wearing perfume can you tell (smell) if the guy is wearing cologne unless his cologne is even more powerful than your perfume?
People in general cannot smell themselves, so it is not necessary to put on a lot of cologne for others to smell it.

She likes her man to smell good. I can see why. Yes, it's important that the man smell good. Particularly if I'm going to kiss him.
 
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This statement probably means she is inexperienced with online dating, and suffering to come up with appealing and honest writing.

Think about how some people (Simplemind comes to mind) manage to say the right thing, with the right tone, effortlessly. It's an art, and not easy.

I'd give this one a chance, and not put any weight on it.
 
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I guess this would fall under the category of "preferences".Unfortunately, it is yet another way to exclude people. Sometimes I can't help but think that a lot of the people on eharmony have such a narrow view of who they would date, that they will never meet up with anyone. Your post just reinforced this.
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
Yes, I think you are missing something here. She likes a man that wears cologne. That is it.

It does not mean she wears perfume, that she is shallow or anything else.

It does not mean that you need to wear cologne if you normally don't.

It just means she enjoys when a man does.
To me the operative words are "important to me". I read those words as indicating that if I don't wear cologne then I will be rejected and that who the guy is and what he stands for are unimportant as long as he wears cologne.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
To me the operative words are "important to me". I read those words as indicating that if I don't wear cologne then I will be rejected and that who the guy is and what he stands for are unimportant as long as he wears cologne.
This is what I was referring to about how we choose to interpret written communication. This also could mean nothing like that at all.

I do the same thing and this is another reason I like to meet in person sooner rather tha waste a bunch of time with wriiten words. That is just my humble opinion.
 
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I think you are overanalysing the whole thing myself.......

What if it is just an innocent remark? Go meet her, find out for real.

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