She does not want to be with me because I'm "too nice".


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duke01genlee is offline duke01genlee Post #71  August 15,2010, 7:16pm

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I've been told that a few times myself. I can never figure out what too nice is. I'm sure I'll never figure that out myself. But all well the way I see it there loss and I move on.
 
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Michael1974 wrote :
Hello all. I met a girl online and after talking for a few weeks, she asked what I want and I answered, "all I want is a single girl who's looking for a guy for a relationship" and I also said I do not want to get with a ton of women. She said that is too nice. Insane. How is that "too nice"? I'd think it is normal and practical.
it doesn't matter. each person wants what they want - whether or not it makes any sense! just be yourself and look for a woman who likes you for you. some women like a-holes. some women like door mats. some women like men who are somewhere in between those two extremes. look for a woman who appreciates a nice, forthright man and forget the women who don't.
 
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I've been told that a few times myself. I can never figure out what too nice is. I'm sure I'll never figure that out myself. But all well the way I see it there loss and I move on.
This guy is a tool, but his explanation of what "too nice" is pretty good

Being 'Too Nice' To Women, Not Understanding Attraction, And Feeling That Frustration That Drives Us Guys Crazy...
 
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Michael1974 wrote :
That's true. It's a darn shame we have to play games in order to get with someone but I guess I'll start doing it. If I met a girl who is just the opposite and is straight up interested in me I will not put her through any of that.

She was crazy about the long hair ... she initially couldn't stop talking about how gorgeous my hair was and how I looked in some pictures and then she immediately stopped talking to me and it made me think, "huh?".

If everyone is agreeing I'd say everyone also agrees that the girl should have been honest. It's a poor showing of character on her part.

Again, no one has defined too nice yet. I have been speaking English for years and I still have no idea what it means. If we decide to live in a world where people should not be nice, we are in big trouble.
maybe she was lying. maybe she was being honest. you don't know. it is possible that she doesn't like nice guys. it's possible that she does like nice guys. it's possible she really did think you were a nice guy. if she likes nice guys and you are a nice guy that doesn't automatically mean that she's going to want a relationship with you. "nice" may not be her only "must have."

honestly, your statement to her made it sound like you were desperate and would settle for anyone who would accept you. a lot of women would be ok with this. go find one of them.

this woman, possibly, wanted to be with a nice guy who wanted to be with her specifically/be with a woman who has her qualities specifically. most women want to feel special. your answer, while it was honest and nice, may have made her wonder whether you actually wanted a relationship with her specifically.

she decided you weren't what she was looking for. that doesn't mean that she doesn't want a nice guy. she just may not have thought that you were the right nice guy for her. making assumptions about what she does and doesn't want is a waste of your time. go out there and find the right girl for you instead of worrying about this one!
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
This guy is a tool, but his explanation of what "too nice" is pretty good

Being 'Too Nice' To Women, Not Understanding Attraction, And Feeling That Frustration That Drives Us Guys Crazy...
I read it, it is interesting. I can see how it would work. I know I learned alot just by dating.
 
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