She does not want to be with me because I'm "too nice".


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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #11  November 19,2009, 9:45pm

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Psst...Michael, I think Pbabe wants to talk to you lol.
 
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p_babe wrote :
LOL. How do you think I feel?
If you wanted to right now, you could settle down with a beautiful woman but you know better. Moi...I'd rather hold out than settle for something less just because I feel the need. Your choice Michael.
There is no one I can settle down with right now. I don't know anyone.

I do want a quality person to spend my life with. We share that belief 100%.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
Psst...Michael, I think Pbabe wants to talk to you lol.
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PY_2 wrote :
Psst...Michael, I think Pbabe wants to talk to you lol.
PY_2...(sighing) never mind
 
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Michael1974 wrote :
Hello all. I met a girl online and after talking for a few weeks, she asked what I want and I answered, "all I want is a single girl who's looking for a guy for a relationship" and I also said I do not want to get with a ton of women. She said that is too nice. Insane. How is that "too nice"? I'd think it is normal and practical.
Firstly, you need to realise the world is not divided into "nice" and "players" ... It is "good" and "bad"

Nice is just another term for deceitful ... That is what the woman was saying about you.

This is as she now you/men generally better than you. When you said you were looking for "single girl who's looking for a guy for a relationship" she knew you were lying.

Oh, it is more subtle than you think. It isn't as if most folk don't prefer monogamous life long relationships ... it is in our genes.

But we also want a mutually supportive, confident partner who will meet our needs. Then you go and describe yourself as a servile waiting for the other to take all the initiative kinda guy. Who would want that?

You need to present yourself as someone she'd like to get to know, who other woman seek out and that she better state her claim before too late.
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too nice..could be she bashful and flattered by your statement

or it could be very sacrastic where she thinks you are atypical and too nice= naive,.

Or it could mean that you are putting it on very thick and heavy and what you are saying is BS to her.
 
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i read/heard somewhere one of the things a man is to provide in a relationship is a sense of adventure. the sense of it, not necessarily an actual trip to the amazon.
 
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No that is not why she does not want to be with you. Its code for I don't want to be with you and I don't want to hurt your feeling by telling you the real reason so I'll phrase it as a complimentary turndown. Other versions: you can find someone better for you, its not you its me...
 
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[quote=Fleuellen;802770]Firstly, you need to realise the world is not divided into "nice" and "players" ... It is "good" and "bad"

Nice is just another term for deceitful ... That is what the woman was saying about you.

This is as she now you/men generally better than you. When you said you were looking for "single girl who's looking for a guy for a relationship" she knew you were lying.

Oh, it is more subtle than you think. It isn't as if most folk don't prefer monogamous life long relationships ... it is in our genes.

But we also want a mutually supportive, confident partner who will meet our needs. Then you go and describe yourself as a servile waiting for the other to take all the initiative kinda guy. Who would want that?

You need to present yourself as someone she'd like to get to know, who other woman seek out and that she better state her claim before too late.
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I don't think it's a question of too nice, but when a guy tells me "all I want is a single girl who's looking for a guy for a relationship" I'd be wary too. Sounds like he might settle for any woman that happens to be breathing. I'm just thinking from the female POV - not that I'm condoning a long laundry list of requirements, but we all have something that sparks us and makes us want to take things to another level. Next time maybe you could couch it differently .. e.g. I would like to find someone I'm compatible with on a number of different levels.

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a match that's into sports with an incredible sense of humor. Stay away from the generic responses, makes you sound like you're willing to settle for anything coming your way. Just my opinion, and based on your pic you can be selective.
 
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