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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #51  November 23,2009, 12:34pm

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Speaking of dinner your avitar makes me hungry
I actually had that last week!!!
 
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Lilycat wrote :
And believe it or not, I had a streak there where I worked for 4 really bad bosses in a row, 3 alcoholics/substance abusers, one misogynist who actually physically abused some of the women on staff. No witnesses, so no cases. Had lots more bad bosses, funny thing though was that in some ways I learned more from the bad ones than the good ones lol
Oh, I know they're out there - just not a default belief. (Or is it that you're drawn to that kind of boss?!)

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Relationships have ended because I made more money than the man I was involved with...... some men have major problems with this, and I did run into a few..... as far as admitting it to their friends, well that's not going to happen.
Another thing I forgot in my hasty post, is now incessant women are about judging men on his money, comparing a man based on money, and bragging about what men buy for her. This is tiresome, and a reason a man might leave over her salary. That is also not intimidation; that's disgust.
 
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churumbeque wrote :
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Renters see it differently. We don't want to be tied down to one place because face it life doesn't stayed tied down to one place. When renting you are free to move without the hopes of selling a house in this crazy market.

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In certain areas of the country renting may be benifical but not in Iowa where properties have not declined like in over inflated markets. With tax deductions it is actually cheaper to own. You are paying those property taxes when you rent just not writing a seperate check.

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Bottom line rich or poor shouldn't be what counts in a relationship be it in the dating stages or marriage.

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I think money is in the top reasons for divorce



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May sound silly but love is usually the means of the cornerstone of a relationship.

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Oh to be young again.

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Another note, divorce in my book is not considered a set back when it comes to finances. The only time this would even slightly be the case is if one party was totally blind sided and heart broken by it. Otherwise if it was a mutual decision to divorce then each party gets what they deserve a pile of bills a finincial mess and life time of digging out of the mistakes that were made.

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Why do people have a pile of bills you ask. Well this thread is entitled where men are financially now so I'll only stick with the men and bills. Bills are part of life, be it men or women. Yes there are some out there in which choose not to pay the bills they have and have their personal justification in choosing not to. That's thier life more power to them. Yes there are also many who live outside their means, have the nice place, the nice car a social life to kill for but no money to put in that nice car, or nice things to put in that nice place when they consult their wallets.
Bottom line it seems some spend without knowing what their money situation is like in the first place. Some knowingly do this others find out when it's time to pay bills.
As for the statement shouldn't have any more bills then single people. This is a ideal statement you in reality is near impossilbe depending on the life style that person lives their life by.
 
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I have been dumped because I am successful and they felt inferior. My girlfriends say I should lie about my job as it intimidates people.
Actually, I think that successful men are attracted to successful women and the trick as a woman is learning when to turn off the business persona.

I have to remind myself when I am interacting with a man on a business level and an interpersonal one. The *interpersonal* me is much softer and more vulnerable than the *business* me. You have to learn to make that shift.

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Ok, I laughed out loud a few times reading through all 6 pages of postings. First lets get to the "nitty gritty." What do you want? Cause you're not being honest.....

You have offered nothing of any vulnerability on here to show that you have a need of any kind. You clearly seem to have all the answers so why even put up the thread?
You've done nothing but talk about your success with money and how it's not the issue...clearly it is the one thing you want us all to know about...it's the title of your thread....

but what about a relationship? How blindsided (great movie btw) do you expect your readers to be? This is a typical man thing to do, I'm telling the women on here and they are going to come after you and get very upset that you're making them all look bad by acting like a 20 years old man.

Man--"My biggest problem is too many girls find me attractive....."

Do I even need to draw any more comparisons.

Look, I'm just putting it out there...why are you here? Be honest. It's not just about men not having money...it's not about your business success, you've come here to get something you can't get on your own and you should admit it.

Ask yourself this question....and be honest.

when you go to bed at night....and you're laying on your pillow and no ones around...what do you want? it's unguarded...no ones watching...catch yourself wanting whatever that thing is...

I'm just saying, you can't b.s. me. I'm a guy and we can smell our own.

I would also like to encourage you. Whatever it is that you like about yourself...the thing you like most about yourself....the best thing, the thing you think everyone likes about you....they like you in spite of.

Funny thing is that brings about the truth. That people like you for you. Regardless of your money, your jokes, your success, education, doesn't matter, they ... like... YOU! And I do too and if you want to pay my college loans off, i'll let you...if you ask me nicely.



anyway, I wish the best for you and I hope you find someone great. A good relationship is hard to find and while having money helps when it gets to that question, it's not the only question...nor is it the most important....and since I know you won't let me just say that, let me qualify it.

You're in a jail cell, and you have 2 weeks to live. But you can have whatever you want, food from nicest places, big screen t.v.'s, awesome, awesome everything, all that you love, but you're going to die in 2 weeks. doesn't seem to matter anymore does it?

My church mom is in a similar spot. She is 50, owns her home, and makes good living. She dates, but hasn't found a good guy yet. My mom and dad split up when I was about a month or so old. My mom moved about 14 times when I would visit her it was welfare and freedom and at my dads...well, he's been in business for 20+ years now so ya....I've seen both sides from them and for me. I've made $3.95 hr and $72.50 an hour and i've learned one thing about my life....it's not where you go, it's who your with.

Look it does matter that a guy has a little something, it says he's done a little work and that he has a little drive...I give ya that...but please don't come in here and wave your pocketbook in front of us and tell me that the burden is all on us men because we don't have any money....It's just not true...you've got problems too
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