How "date oriented" (anniversaries, birthdays, etc) are you?


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In getting caught up with my thread on thoughtful gestures (Guys: do you need "help" with thoughtful gestures?) it occurred to me that I missed an even more fundamental question:

How are you with remembering and celebrating important dates / milestones, etc. in your relationships? Do you remember things like the exact date of the first kiss or are you lucky to remember your partner's birthday?

Do you make a big deal out of such events? If so, how has your approach to such things been received from past partners?
 
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I definitely make a big deal out of birthdays. Details about events are harder for me to remember now at my age, didn't always used to be that way. Even I had a hard time remembering when my nieces and second cousins were born, not to mention siblings anniversary dates.

So I guess I'm just good at remembering birthdays...as long as I have a calendar (lol).
 
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i've a palm t5 with all manner of useul dates, eg, bithdays, wedding anniv. fist time had sex (with former partner - maybe need to to reomove that) farmers market and dental app'ts. I even sometimes turn up to dentist. The thing I econ is to be unpredictable, so don't make a fuss over every important date, and at randam give flowers, massage feet or whatever.
 
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Horrible at remembering dates, perhaps because I'm not all that much interested in birthdays, anniversaries, and such. Things like Valentine's Day, St. Patrick's, etc, just fly under my radar.

It will be interesting so see how my indifference to this sort of thing plays against the Sweetie's sentimentality. I have a feeling he'll want to make an occasion of every minor holiday and every relationship anniversary, and I don't want to inadvertently hurt his feelings.
 
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I'm a failure to my sex ( and my sister is lovingly always there to remind me how much of an odd duck I am ).....I need a clearly marked calender and possibly a reminder note to remember important dates. It's a good thing that I am good at documenting most things. I guess it is because I'm more focused on the day to day little gestures of love and what is happening in my world at the moment. What's the point of showing someone you care in just one day when you have a whole year of opportunities to draw them close to you. It doesn't mean that people let me totally off the hook for big events or major details...but the little nice things over time sure help buffer me on my flaky days
 
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I always remember my birthday. And I always remember to alert all my friends and family, coworkers and neighbors well in advance that it is coming up and what time that day I'll be at home receiving callers bearing gifts. They seem to appreciate the thought I put into it.
 
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I keep special dates for special people only. Not everyone.

But those special days, for me, its an excuse to celebrate. In our relations, I'm the one that remembers our anniversary. October comes around, and my girlfriend is like "Our anniversary is coming up, isn't it?", and I nod, knowing that by October 1st, my anniversary plans have been made already.

Other special friends, i will send a card or something like that.

My secret...electronic calendar on my phone and facebook (thats recent though)
 
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I am atrocious at dates, other than my immediate family members' birthdays, my parents' anniversary (November 19th, their 55th)..
 
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I remember dates that are special for me and special for those who are important to me. Birthdays are important to me, and I like to help those who are close to me celebrate them. There are other dates of importance to me, as well, but I'm not going to list them all out here. I remember people in different ways for different things. I use a calendar (usually on my cell phone) to remember these things, but I have other means, as well.
 
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