How "date oriented" (anniversaries, birthdays, etc) are you?


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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #11  November 20,2009, 5:58pm
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Birthdays, definitely. Birthdays are a big deal with me. If I know it is your birthday, or you've just had a birthday, I will generally wish you Happy Birthday at the very least. Most people I know IRL get a card or little note as the minimum.

Anniversaries - less so. I usually remember the month and year, but not necessarily the date. And I don't celebrate it either, will just usually ask what my friend/relative did to celebrate the anniversary.
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
In getting caught up with my thread on thoughtful gestures (Guys: do you need "help" with thoughtful gestures?) it occurred to me that I missed an even more fundamental question:

How are you with remembering and celebrating important dates / milestones, etc. in your relationships? Do you remember things like the exact date of the first kiss or are you lucky to remember your partner's birthday?

Do you make a big deal out of such events? If so, how has your approach to such things been received from past partners?
Oh, I remember significant and not-so-significant dates very well. It must have to do with my being a historian. I would have no problem being in a relationship with a woman and remembering dates that are significant and precious to her.
 
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There's no such thing as "important dates."

Treat someone in a way which is sustainable forever.

I don't now, and surely never will, remember "dates."
 
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D_Lion wrote :
There's no such thing as "important dates."

Treat someone in a way which is sustainable forever.

I don't now, and surely never will, remember "dates."

What's unsustainable about remembering your partner's birthday for the duration of your relationship?
 
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birthdays i remember, and am usually the party planner.

anniversaries- i never remember. i don't think it matters until you are married, and even then I'm kinda "whatever" about it.
 
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meri75 wrote :
What's unsustainable about remembering your partner's birthday for the duration of your relationship?

What I meant by "sustainable" was that I favor treating a person consistently day by day, and not differently on certain days.

Though, personally, I generally do not remember things like this - more specifically, it is random whether I do or not.

It's like forgetting the number of my mobile phone, things like that.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
What I meant by "sustainable" was that I favor treating a person consistently day by day, and not differently on certain days.

Though, personally, I generally do not remember things like this - more specifically, it is random whether I do or not.

It's like forgetting the number of my mobile phone, things like that.
sometimes i want to slap you.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
What I meant by "sustainable" was that I favor treating a person consistently day by day, and not differently on certain days.

Though, personally, I generally do not remember things like this - more specifically, it is random whether I do or not.

It's like forgetting the number of my mobile phone, things like that.
The fact that most mobile phones have a calendar feature with the ability to program alarms makes your "unsustainability" argument questionable at best. Why not just admit that you don't want to be bothered?

I'm with Scarlet.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
sometimes i want to slap you.

This trauma will damage brain cells, probably the ones containing memory of your birthday!

I recommend associative learning; for instance, you delivery a passionate Kiss while saying "my birthday is ..." Thus, with any luck, I come to associate your passionate Kiss with whatever day is your birthday.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Why not just admit that you don't want to be bothered?

I don't want to be bothered ... actually, what I don't want is the erroneous implication that an attribute of forgetfulness is a matter of moral deficiency, when it is not.
 
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