Cult of "The born-again Virgin" --They LIVE !!!

I would certainly agree with that personally, but on the other hand... if that is someone's deal breaker, then it's going to help him or her screen out matches who aren't willing to abide by it, and also allows others to screen them out. Is it any different from someone who is following that path for religious reasons saying something about that in their profile? The goal is to find someone likeminded and, given that this is not exactly a typical position, perhaps it's best to just be upfront about it.

Even though others think it's a silly perspective, I can understand that someone might make this choice and why they might do so and I just put it in the "to each his/her own" category. (And I don't see what's "hyper-feminist" about that... )

"Will guys still date me if I say no?" "But I love sex! What about that?" "Every guy I meet turns out to be a jerk! Where have all the nice guys gone?" "But I'm in my sexual prime. I have to have it, don't I?" "What do men think when a woman refuses?" "Maybe I need some time off from dating. Will that be too weird?" "How can I make him wait until I decide if I really want to get involved?" "Isn't this an old-fashioned idea? Or some sort of religious thing?" "Do I owe it to him? Does he think I do?" "If I could just find more time in my life, I'd. . . ." "What if I'm the only woman in the world who wishes saying 'No, thanks' was easier?" And many more.Link to the full article here: http://www.enotalone.com/article/4308.html~~~~~I have just received my second of the matches in the last months from females that told me they were born again virgins.Flat out, "I am saving it for Marriage".EACH of them, over 50 years old by the way!!!~~~~My imaginary unwritten letter to them would be something like thisear BAV:You have described yourself, at 50+ years old with multiple grown children - as a "Born-again virgin"Well, BAV, I will tell you this; you are just kidding yourself, if somehow you believe that that has some "Value" to men. Virginity is ONLY one time. Once it's gone, it's gone. A wrecked or flooded Mercedes Benz can be fixed up and repaired to be like new again. But it will be branded with a "Salvage Title" when it rises resplendent, again on a dealer's lot, with pennants fluttering above. In some states, the Salvage Title can be "washed", after being sold and re-sold in sevveral states, so it's hoped nobody will discover its past history. And if you don't dig too hard, ie, Carfax or Autocheck, the seller can get away with it. I am STILL unconvinced its a virtue, especially when someone rubs YOUR face in it and touts it as some virtue, or worse, That you won't "get any" until the wedding night.Sincerely,6dle899And this from me, who by the length of time passed, could be, by some folks considered a born again virgin too, just the *male* variant. All that kind of stuff creeps me out, like religious fanaticism does. Not looking for the town floozie or something, but this to me, gets into the area of religious hysteria, or worse, blackmailing a guy to marry you to get sex. And that's: JUST NOT for me. Thoughts?

I'm curious how the children of these Born Again Virgins feel, knowing their mom is in effect discarding their creation. Not good.

Anyway, I think the whole idea is ridiculous. If you want to wait until marriage, then wait until marriage. That's your choice, but do you really need to give it a cute name and proclaim it to the world? We don't care!

Seriously, what's with all the derogatory comments around here about people's values lately? If someone's values don't align with yours, move on. If someone is set on waiting until marriage before having sex, and that doesn't fit with your values/goals, just close the match. Why read negative motives into it. They were simply letting you know where they stand so there would be no misunderstanding in that regard.

If my mom were ever to get into a relationship, I'm quite sure she would have a no sex until marriage rule, not because she's trying to trap anyone, but because of the value she places on sex. Not on virginity, but on sex. The 'born-again-virgin' thing is simply a buzzword that's popular in some circles. It doesn't mean she literally thinks she's a virgin again. Just that for her sex is restricted to a marital relationship.

...Why do you even care about this so much?

...i don't think it's any different than a match proclaiming they are Jewish or Buddhist , it's just information, and you get to decide if you are compatible based on their profile.

...just because you personally think it's wrong doesn't mean it's so.

Seriously, what's with all the derogatory comments around here about people's values lately? If someone's values don't align with yours, move on. If someone is set on waiting until marriage before having sex, and that doesn't fit with your values/goals, just close the match. Why read negative motives into it. They were simply letting you know where they stand so there would be no misunderstanding in that regard...