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self-sufficiency ...

and yet ... my previous relationships were with self-sufficient people.

Devotion and/or generosity was the missing trait ... perhaps I should look for that next time heh.
- November 5th, 2009, 07:28 pm
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I know, right? Other than my vampire Halloween costume, don't most of my pics look fairly harmless? And yes, I got pulled over one time for speeding and the guy spent the entire time at my window with his hand on his gun. Made me nervous as hell. I couldn't even think about flirting my way out of that ticket. I just knew if I winked he was draw the gun.

I think I might be inadvertantly giving off some kind of bad girl vibe. I am NOT a bad girl. I am simply a good Monkey.
Ummm...in light of these confessions, perhaps undying devotion might be asking a bit much of a man, eh?
- November 5th, 2009, 07:33 pm
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I don't like controlling men. Is that baggage?

Last edited by Faira; November 5th, 2009 at 07:57 pm. Reason: "Undying devotion" is good. And someone that likes to do dishes would be *great*..
- November 5th, 2009, 07:56 pm
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...So, the TSA agent and I had a nice little chat as he continually reminded me NOT TO TOUCH THE SUITCASE while he searched it (I was standing at least three feet away) and when I told him exactly where to find the vase, he held it up and then said "I'm kind of surprised that it's empty." Huh? I'm a middle-aged fat chick with mom hair. I told him before he opened the suitcase what was in it, where it was, and why it was there. Does this sound like the ploy of a master criminal or even the pathetic attempts at evasion of a moderately stupid scofflaw?

Oh...I'm sorry, what were we talking about?

Integrity. Definitely. Oh, and undying devotion. I insist on it. : )
I had a similar experience but about a small pocketbook that TSA in Miami was trying to get into. Under everyday circumstances, I would just mindless open it when I needed but could not remember how when requested for instruction by someone who was yelling. ok, I was also irritated cause I had to check my bags.... ahhh to relive this annoying experience... a friend asked me to accompany her while in her wheelchair to get early and therefore better seats on the plane. I didn't know she already had someone else lined up to do it, but knew she didn't usually use a wheelchair. I agreed thinking she had some special circumstance that I didn't know about... In casual conversation prior to agreeing I mentioned I no longer checked bags due to several instances of lost luggage. So we're going through security and get pulled over. The person originally asked was released from service by my friend and went through no problem. Me, not released, got to spend time with security about my handbag and then had to check my luggage. Argggggggh. I felt as if a child was being torn from my arms.Arrrggggh. Security finally got the bag opened, it's small, only holds a wallet (good for nites out), and allowed me through...arrrgggh.
I have baggage about baggage.
- November 7th, 2009, 12:17 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :

Name the one quality that's non negotiable for you. Got it? Yeah?
That he doesn't secretly still love his ex
- November 7th, 2009, 01:50 pm
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I know what is in my baggage. I just don't like anyone to see how I packed it.
- November 7th, 2009, 04:13 pm
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I think we expect people to be honest, kind, funny, gentle, and loving. When those we love end up not being like that it surprises us because we expected them, of all people, to be one above all others. That is why we have lists of must-haves, because we were betrayed and now must keep a keener eye on the next person. There's nothing wrong with that.

I guess I have a problem with the term "baggage." We all have bags of negatives and positives we tote along throughout our lives. I don't know why we feel we need to continually justify our feelings.

Can't we call it experience?
- November 7th, 2009, 05:21 pm
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Mokkesofie wrote :
That he doesn't secretly still love his ex
I hear ya. Mine went back to his. However, recently we got back in communication and I fear he may have a much more pronounced border line personality disorder than I originally thought. Maybe it's perspective, maybe he's a nutter, either way I'm glad it's her and not me that is stuck with him now! Let the biatch carry that baggage!

.......And breathe..........
- November 16th, 2009, 02:45 pm
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Faira wrote :
I don't like controlling men. Is that baggage?


Telling you to sit tight and watch TV while I fix you dinner and bring you a glass of wine was controlling?

Psssch..that's the last time I make you dinner young lady!
- November 16th, 2009, 09:45 pm
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