To Be Interesting, Have Some Interests

To Be Interesting, Have Some Interests

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melman is offline melman Post #31  November 14,2009, 12:16pm
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cp30 wrote :
I admit, when someone is overly concerned with hobbies and 'passions' they can strike me as a bit immature.
I don't get this opinion at all. I hope we are simply using the word "passion" in totally different ways. When I comment in the profile review threads, I always say that question #1 (what are you passionate about?) is not a place for an essay about your values. I think your "passions" are those things that make you want to get out of bed in the morning, and they are the first things a friend would say about you if I asked him/her to describe you. They're not going to say "oh, that cp30... she is just so passionate about reading and learning and relationships." Well, maybe they'd say you read a lot... but hopefully they will talk about things that you are known to enjoy doing. That's in no way "immature", as you put it.

Question #1 probably started out as "Tell me about yourself." and to beef it up a little, it now asks for your "passions". The wording of the question seems to cause most of my matches to write "I am passionate about living life to the fullest / being a good person / treating everyone kindly / etc." So it's not in your interest to also write these kinds of things (even if true), simply because it's what everyone else says. An upbeat, conversational answer about some of your interests is a very easy way to grab your match's attention right away and make him want to keep reading.

I like the subject of this thread. To be interesting, have some interests. And not things you'd like to do someday, either. Have some actual interests and hobbies and talk yourself up a bit.
 
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I agree with what you said about being active with even one thing. I'm looking for things to volunteer for because the more I don't do anything, I get lazy. I suppose the best place to find out is to call the county. Helping someone or somewhere, keeps me feeling like I've accomplished something.   
 
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Athios is offline Athios Post #33  November 20,2009, 12:29pm
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I don't know about you guys, but I seem to be having a different interpretation of this article's advice than some of the people responding. I don't feel like the authors are asking people to join a hobby-centric group or club just to meet people. I feel like they are suggesting people to enrich your lives/personalities by exploring and developing your interests.

Mind you, if you happen to be sure that you really do want to just chill out and do very little, then by all means be honest about it, and I'm sure that you will eventually find like-minded people who enjoy a simple, quiet life.

But, on the other hand, if you're not sure of that, then it really doesn't hurt to go out and try something new (or old).
 
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roguewolf1 is offline roguewolf1 Post #34  November 23,2009, 10:47pm

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I like to wrassle with elephants, race ants and swing from vines. Also I climbed Mt Everest on my lunch break while writing a 7,000 page thesis for Al Gore. When I'm not reading the whole law library in under 20 hours, you can catch me doing improv after a policeman has pulled me over.



I've also run away from blow dart carrying angry natives in a South American Rain Forest, trained with a female astronaut (she took me out to space baby!) and dodged some AK rounds.

When I can I volunteer online to others who are running away from natives and need advice (hide in the mud, next to the river.)
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See, this is my problem. The last guy I dated for a year had such an issue with it (yes a year I like misery). I work full time and I go to school. Add that in with all the other things that have to get done and I have very little time. There are things I like but nothing I really get into at the moment since I have so much on my plate. Granted it may be boring but I'm working on getting somewhere and could really care less. I pay my bills since if I didn't I'd be homeless and put myself through school, if I didn't I'd be out of luck. Sometimes, being interesting isn't an option....getting by is what you're working for. While I do have interests I've put them on hold for more important things like supporting myself and putting myself through school So what? I don't wrestle elephants and have boxing matches with lions, I'm busy. The elephants and lions know I'll take them out when I get the chance. Oh yeah and crocs and sharks, they are on my list.

So, I end this with a....Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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ahmadgh67 is offline ahmadgh67 Post #36  December 3,2009, 6:56am
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Hi i would like have agood relaton ship with woman that she dont like any problem and she like to be happy in this life
 
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Steven1 is offline Steven1 Post #37  December 5,2009, 9:45pm
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Although I am married, I once told someone that I write articles for local newspapers. You would not believe the response you get when you mention something like this. In reality I have actually written artciles for the newspapers. But being a writer is not that glamorous, It takes work, research, and very careful editing. If your lucky, one of your articles will sell...in this economic down turn, reality is most get in for free. Luckily i also have a trade,  so writing right now is just part time. The point is when you say I am a writer, musician, artist, people dont see past the title. With my expirence in writing, its not as glamorous as it sounds.
 
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