To Be Interesting, Have Some Interests

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Dafearon is offline Dafearon Post #11  November 5,2009, 9:45am
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I think you're right that for you to go to a class or anything interest related JUST to meet someone is a bad idea. But at the same time, i think its okay for you to try a class or gathering to see if you like something if a good idea. Otherwise, many times you don't know if you would be interested or not.

I know this is coming from someone who has somebody in their life, but meeting someone should be a bonus in that environment, not the goal. When i was single, I saw all these single volunteer groups and I didn't bother with it because, not to be mean, but I didn't really care. I felt like it would be hypocritical to join up to meet someone, and not really care about the work I was doing. Also, my therapist at the time suggested that I join toastmaster to meet people and at the same time, learn how to speak publicly. I turned that idea down because I really didn't care to learn and although I did want to meet people, I could care less about the subject.
 
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Ephemera is offline Ephemera Post #12  November 5,2009, 10:01am
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One of the things that I love about Eh (usually rant about what I hate!) is the buffet of men they present me with to date. And with each of these men has come a world of interesting things to learn about, things that enrich me and give me a bigger world. Each guy has new and wonderful talents and interests and so far most have shared those with me. Big shout out to them all!!!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #13  November 5,2009, 10:49am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Ephemera wrote :
One of the things that I love about Eh (usually rant about what I hate!) is the buffet of men they present me with to date.
Buffet? We're not pieces of meat you know. lol
 
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cardguy is offline cardguy Post #14  November 5,2009, 10:54am
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jayjay wrote :
Buffet? We're not pieces of meat you know. lol
Yeah, some of us are fruits and nuts
 
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pussinboots is offline pussinboots Post #15  November 5,2009, 11:09am
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Does downloading from sites geared to "mature sophisticated gentlemen" count as a hobby? Probably not. LOL
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #16  November 5,2009, 11:33am
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Does downloading from sites geared to "mature sophisticated gentlemen" count as a hobby? Probably not. LOL
I suspect that's not the real target audience. Still, anything you pursue vigorously due to interest or pleasure probably constitutes a hobby. lol
 
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I suspect that's not the real target audience. Still, anything you pursue vigorously due to interest or pleasure probably constitutes a hobby. lol
Vigorously - yeah, that word usually applies. LOL
 
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Monica1 is offline Monica1 Post #18  November 5,2009, 12:06pm

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o....m.....g.... LOL!
 
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Dafearon wrote :
I think you're right that for you to go to a class or anything interest related JUST to meet someone is a bad idea. But at the same time, i think its okay for you to try a class or gathering to see if you like something if a good idea. Otherwise, many times you don't know if you would be interested or not.
Whoever said joining a class or something along those lines just to meet someone is creepy had it bang on. However, meeting someone can be a nice bonus to picking up a hobby.

I don't think downloading pronography is a hobby I'd mention on a first date, not that I do that of course. Haven't you people heard of streaming video?
 
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Jayjay,
To me you're all beautiful pieces of meat: tender steaks, juicy burgers, finger licking good ribs, plump sausages............. now I'm hungry and hot, where's the number for that pizza place with the hot old guy that delivers?
 
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