Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

About You Your healthy mind, body, and spirit play a vital role in all the important relationships of your life. Share your advice and insights here.

Reply
Page 6 of 25 « First 4 5 6 7 8 16 Last »
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
Can_I_just_be_Jo Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline
Can_I_just_be_Jo's Avatar

Can_I_just_be_Jo :)

Veteran

Join Date: Oct 2009

Posts: 1,511

See profile

alissag wrote :
I have plenty of guy friends who have horror stories. So, I have come to accept the fact that I am, we are, the exception, not the rule.

The fact that my lawyer (had to get one to deal with the division of the company we started) said to me "I wish all my clients were as level headed as you!" Spoke volumes... I based my decisions on facts, not emotions. Chicks, in general, are emotional and vindictive. Generally, not very nice, hence, I don't have many as friends. They can really be terrible!

I treat others the way I expect to be treated, nothing more, nothing less!
My attorney thought it was funny when he would come to me with well he wants this. How many hours to fight? If the cost to fight was less than what he wanted we fought, otherwise no. After a few times he said should I just use my hourly to determine your answer and just have you sign off? I think he was joking....
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:32 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#51   Reply With Quote
CapnCrunch23 CapnCrunch23 is offline
CapnCrunch23's Avatar

Veteran

Join Date: Sep 2009

Posts: 1,458

See profile

Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
. I sometimes wonder if these women that have these amazing settlements aren't urban legends.
How about a settlement like this..

STUNNING Stephanie Seymour will have to get by on just $270,000 a month -- at least until her nasty divorce from polo-playing pony breeder Peter Brant is finalized. A Connecticut judge ordered Brant to start coughing up the dough last week. his continued fury over his wife's thorough bred spending habits. Brant, who nets an estimated $1.55 million a month,
Last edited by CaptCrunch23; November 3rd, 2009 at 10:08 pm.
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:40 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#52   Reply With Quote
jayjay jayjay is offline
jayjay's Avatar

jayjay ....is feeling optimistic.

Power Poster

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 8,275

See profile

CaptCrunch23 wrote :
How about a settlement like this..

STUNNING Stephanie Seymour will have to get by on just $270,000 a month -- at least until her nasty divorce from polo-playing pony breeder Peter Brant is finalized. A Connecticut judge ordered Brant to start coughing up the dough last week. his continued fury over his wife's thorough bred spending habits. Brant, who nets an estimated $1.55 million a month,
It depends....whose thorough breeding is she spending the money on?
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:54 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#53   Reply With Quote
chawks64 chawks64 is online now
chawks64's Avatar

chawks64 is trying very hard to be patient. Definitely not my best talent.

Power Poster

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 5,212

See profile

This is really disturbing.

First, there is a vast moral difference between expecting alimony and expecting child support. If you're a grownup, you should be able to take care of yourself. But BOTH people who created these children should be helping to supply their needs. It really isn't fair to say "You chose to keep them in your home, so YOU fork out all of the money for their food, clothing, school supplies, medicine and outright cash, as well as the added expenses of more bedrooms and larger utility bills."

I have 2 ex-husbands and never asked for one single dime in alimony from either of them. I did ask for (and received) child support from my childrens' father, my first husband. The amount requested was less than half what the state guidelines suggested, despite the fact that his income was literally quadruple mine. The amount he contributed didn't even come close to half what our children cost to raise. In addition, part of the reason he was able to make that much money was due to the fact that I put aside my work life to take care of him and our children, and to allow him to establish his own business.

On the other hand, I know his brother divorced and was paying more than $4,000 to his ex every month for 10 years, all alimony since they had no kids. She used it to sit around and watch soaps. Pampered her whole life and completely incapable of holding a real job.

So you can see why a lot of women get upset when the subject of money-stealing ex-wives come up. They're angry about the minority of selfish women that give us all a bad reputation, and the men who assume we're all the same.
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:56 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#54   Reply With Quote
Wonderwoman402 Wonderwoman402 is offline
Wonderwoman402's Avatar

Veteran

Join Date: Jan 2009

Posts: 1,311

See profile

CaptCrunch23 wrote :
How about a settlement like this..

STUNNING Stephanie Seymour will have to get by on just $270,000 a month -- at least until her nasty divorce from polo-playing pony breeder Peter Brant is finalized. A Connecticut judge ordered Brant to start coughing up the dough last week. his continued fury over his wife's thorough bred spending habits. Brant, who nets an estimated $1.55 million a month,
I don't know anything about these two... never heard of them until now. However, these are people in the top 0.5% of the income distribution, hardly representative of what's going on in millions of divorces of regular folk.

And strictly by the numbers... not knowing anything at all about those two... that payment is 17% of his income, hardly close to the 50%+ that some are claiming here.

If I were making $1.55 million / month, I think I could adjust my spending so I could get by on "just" $1.28 million / month.
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:57 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#55   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

CapnCrunch23 CapnCrunch23 is offline
CapnCrunch23's Avatar

Veteran

Join Date: Sep 2009

Posts: 1,458

See profile

Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I don't know anything about these two... never heard of them until now. However, these are people in the top 0.5% of the income distribution, hardly representative of what's going on in millions of divorces of regular folk.

And strictly by the numbers... not knowing anything at all about those two... that payment is 17% of his income, hardly close to the 50%+ that some are claiming here.

If I were making $1.55 million / month, I think I could adjust my spending so I could get by on "just" $1.28 million / month.
Just silly is what that is!! (not your post) those numbers I mean.. She is a famous model with millions of her own money

my post wasn't meant to be comparison people here..
Last edited by CaptCrunch23; November 3rd, 2009 at 10:07 pm.
- November 3rd, 2009, 10:04 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#56   Reply With Quote
nightling nightling is offline
nightling's Avatar

Veteran

Join Date: Sep 2009

Posts: 2,448

See profile

chawks64 wrote :
This is really disturbing.

First, there is a vast moral difference between expecting alimony and expecting child support. If you're a grownup, you should be able to take care of yourself. But BOTH people who created these children should be helping to supply their needs. It really isn't fair to say "You chose to keep them in your home, so YOU fork out all of the money for their food, clothing, school supplies, medicine and outright cash, as well as the added expenses of more bedrooms and larger utility bills."

I have 2 ex-husbands and never asked for one single dime in alimony from either of them. I did ask for (and received) child support from my childrens' father, my first husband. The amount requested was less than half what the state guidelines suggested, despite the fact that his income was literally quadruple mine. The amount he contributed didn't even come close to half what our children cost to raise. In addition, part of the reason he was able to make that much money was due to the fact that I put aside my work life to take care of him and our children, and to allow him to establish his own business.

On the other hand, I know his brother divorced and was paying more than $4,000 to his ex every month for 10 years, all alimony since they had no kids. She used it to sit around and watch soaps. Pampered her whole life and completely incapable of holding a real job.

So you can see why a lot of women get upset when the subject of money-stealing ex-wives come up. They're angry about the minority of selfish women that give us all a bad reputation, and the men who assume we're all the same.
I have to second this. If you bring a child into the world, then you must help support the child, regardless of whether the child lives with you or someone else.

So part of the money goes to rent, part goes to food, clothes, medicine ... child support for most women is never equal to the actual expense and with good reason. The mother is supposed to do her share as well.
- November 3rd, 2009, 10:15 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#57   Reply With Quote
notyet notyet is offline
notyet's Avatar

notyet *****

Virtuoso

Join Date: Nov 2008

Posts: 3,833

See profile

Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
...I sometimes wonder if these women that have these amazing settlements aren't urban legends. You know just enough truth to carry the story...
i wish i had been married to an urban legend. but it was a nightmare. i will not recount here what i have posted over the last year. but it is all back there somewhere.

to the OP-

i am wary of divorced women but sincerely do try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. to my detriment, i trust until you give me reason not to trust you. so, if you told me you played fair- i would not even want to see your court documents.

what should you think? be happy that he likes you and enjoys your company and hasn't become completely embittered. he will heal in time. although he may think that he won't. my separation was just nine years ago and the divorce finalized seven. but custody and visitation was not completely resolved until just 18 months ago.

if you like him and he likes you, be patient.
Last edited by notyet; November 3rd, 2009 at 11:26 pm. Reason: my own
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:03 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#58   Reply With Quote
lil_lamb lil_lamb is offline
lil_lamb's Avatar

Veteran

Join Date: Dec 2008

Posts: 1,267

See profile

avoid societal-level battles in your own relationships, that's my advice.

but honestly, i'd say you are a rare woman and your lawyer even rarer. and i'm a woman saying this. a man is safer going on the presumption that any divorcee he meets falls in with the majority. the system not only bleeds men dry, but also criminalises them in a way i'd consider, if not automatically, then darn near it.
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:33 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#59   Reply With Quote
mari3434 mari3434 is offline
mari3434's Avatar

Quick Study

Join Date: Oct 2009

Posts: 109

See profile

As a matrimonial lawyer, it is interesting and surprising to view people's opinions on child support. I am amazed that many people have confused the issue of child support with spousal support payments - completely different legal issues. Seeking child support has nothing to do with being a "gold digger" or lazy! Simply put, the Court certainly would not view child support in this way.
- November 4th, 2009, 02:19 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#60   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

Reply
Page 6 of 25 « First 4 5 6 7 8 16 Last »

Bookmarks

« What talent do you WISH you had? | Array | The Three Cs of Great Sex »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Shall I call, email, or not? funnyengineergal Dating 65 October 6th, 2009 09:56 pm
To Call or Not to Call islandrain80 Dating 9 September 15th, 2009 03:38 pm
Secure call is worthless to buy passat1 Using eHarmony 0 August 16th, 2009 11:44 am

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Lindsey, the people that know even a little bit about you know better. The ones that never took the time? There's no reason to value their opinions. You're an amazing, caring, beautiful woman. ... ” – chawks64

Join the “It's over.” discussion

“You became emotionally attached, prematurely so. Often, nobody's at fault. This is how WE ARE. WE HOPE, WE DESIRE, WE DREAM. Don't beat yourself up. 'You can't push a wave any faster onto the ... ” – BlueHeron

Join the “She broke my heart, but is it my fault?” discussion

“If you listen closely, people will almost always tell you exactly who they are and how they intend to treat you. The problem is that most people either don't believe it or don't listen when they ... ” – suzyblueeyes

Join the “When a guy says he's not looking for a relationship...” discussion

“Would he be open to saying something like, "I want to hear about this, but I need you to move it along..." instead of "Stop talking"? Something like that, anyway...something that gets the message ... ” – Faira

Join the “Stop Talking” discussion

“ I may want / need all manner of things. That doesn't mean I will be able to attain them. If I have to choose between a compatible, safe, person, or someone I "love" (today but probably not ... ” – D_Lion

Join the “co-habiting with no engagement... smart or not?” discussion

“No regrets.....to me..there isn't any difference between online and in real life, everyone has a story to tell and it just takes time for the truth to be revealed....I just keep on wondering what ... ” – beautifulgenius

Join the “What lessons have you learned from online dating?” discussion

“Yeah... I dont' think there's enough context to conclude here. What are her actions (anybody can say words)? Is ther phsyical contact, close proximity? Another potential angle to this sitaution is ... ” – richey

Join the “Is she just friendly or something else?” discussion

“Hi--just wanted to update, as promised. We'd just had a bit of communication confusion, which has been resolved. Things are moving forward in a way that's making me really happy, actually. My own ... ” – Fledgling

Join the “Did I make a mistake?” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 07:07 pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2010, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0