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Child support is just that. Different than alimony. Please don't confuse the two.

The problem with this idea, is "child support" is defined to include housing and elements of neighborhood quality. Thus, the prime beneficiary of "child support" is not children, but a subsidy-seeking woman.

It is simply not feasible for a person to pay for two sets of housing.
 
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My gf gets squat from her daughter's dad.

I give my son's mom $x per month.

My gf works at a daycare for about $10/hr.

My son's mom is a CPA who drives a BMW 7-series.

My gf says to hell with the CS she's supposed to be getting. She'll make it on her own.

My son's mom says she needs the money, because she barely makes ends meet.

Do the math indeed.

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I said to my neighbor: "When my son gets married, I'm going to tell him to divorce her immediately and find his second wife. It's the second one who's the keeper."


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...Generally dads want to be fun-moms have to do the work that is why courts are skewed. I was stupid.
brilliantly informed statements like this are what keeps men negatively stereotyping women
 
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saulgoode wrote :
My gf gets squat from her daughter's dad.

I give my son's mom $x per month.

My gf works at a daycare for about $10/hr.

My son's mom is a CPA who drives a BMW 7-series.

My gf says to hell with the CS she's supposed to be getting. She'll make it on her own.

My son's mom says she needs the money, because she barely makes ends meet.

Do the math indeed.

Yes, some women ruin it. But the ones who don't ruin it, we love you!

I said to my neighbor: "When my son gets married, I'm going to tell him to divorce her immediately and find his second wife. It's the second one who's the keeper."


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OMG you are perfect and you drink dark beer. I had a growler of export IPA in the fridge. I came home and my son was moving the bottle around like a snow scene toy. Mom, why do you have motor oil in the fridge? He drinks natty light, like he has room to talk. Not sure where I went wrong with that kid.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
The problem with this idea, is "child support" is defined to include housing and elements of neighborhood quality. Thus, the prime beneficiary of "child support" is not children, but a subsidy-seeking woman.

It is simply not feasible for a person to pay for two sets of housing.
Absolutely not! Well, not in my case anyway. My ex pays (and should pay) towards their living expenses. He chose to have these children as did I. And honestly, I do far more of the parenting than he does. Throwing money at the children does not a parent make.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
The problem with this idea, is "child support" is defined to include housing and elements of neighborhood quality. Thus, the prime beneficiary of "child support" is not children, but a subsidy-seeking woman.

It is simply not feasible for a person to pay for two sets of housing.
Oh, for Pete's sake! What is she supposed to do? Pitch a tent in the back of the house? Move to a hotel for the homeless and have them all live together in one room?

Your baggage is showing again, D_L.
 
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notyet wrote :
brilliantly informed statements like this are what keeps men negatively stereotyping women
We need to stop with "mums" and "dads" and start talking about "parents". And you are an awesome parent.
 
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He is. The living expenses he is paying for are the roof over his head, not hers.

The law is what it is. I can't change it, but since it is not possible to pay for two sets of housing, all that is left is not to have children.
 
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Oh, for Pete's sake! What is she supposed to do? Pitch a tent in the back of the house? Move to a hotel for the homeless and have them all live together in one room?

Your baggage is showing again, D_L.
Gawd....please don't get that started again. lol
 
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neardc wrote :
What is she supposed to do? Pitch a tent in the back of the house? Move to a hotel for the homeless and have them all live together in one room?

Get a job like a real person!

How many times do I have to say it?! I make ONE salary! I can only afford ONE house! Mine.

Women who want income need to work. Why is this so difficult for some people to grasp?
 
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