Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #21  November 2,2009, 5:33am
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Emme wrote :
Thank you, it's always nice to hear there's someone on the planet who doesn't think I'm a troll. :-)
Oh, lets see how we might reframe that to be a little more "more
Constructive" ...

How about "great to here you and all the other folk on the planet who think I'm an exuberant, sexy, kick arse kinda gal!!!

Now you try.
 
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Emme is offline Emme Post #22  November 2,2009, 4:44pm

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Fleuellen wrote :
Oh, lets see how we might reframe that to be a little more "more
Constructive" ...

How about "great to here you and all the other folk on the planet who think I'm an exuberant, sexy, kick arse kinda gal!!!

Now you try.
I'm having an extrordinarily bad day. We'll have to save that attempt for another day.
 
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FruitaBu is offline FruitaBu Post #23  November 6,2009, 6:25am
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You'll find that guy EM. He'll see the kind, intelligent, funny gal we know you to be. Most everyone has baggage of some sort. You just haven't found the right baggage handler.

Agree with Haz! Love ya girl! You are a good person. Don't give up! Sure.. you have some challenges. We all do because life is challenging sometimes! You are not alone...
 
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Emme is offline Emme Post #24  November 6,2009, 5:08pm

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Agree with Haz! Love ya girl! You are a good person. Don't give up! Sure.. you have some challenges. We all do because life is challenging sometimes! You are not alone...
Thanks, K. Appreciate it. Got new meds this week, maybe they'll work!
 
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I think that finding a partner has as much to do with 'fit' as it does with anything else, and I don't see anything that would disqualify you from finding someone. But it may take a bit longer because you are less 'generic' than some people.

I do think that emotional health is important in maintaining a healthy relationship, but having a mental health issue does not preclude mental health. A huge part of mental health lies in ackowledging and taking responsibility for yourself, your health, and your actions. And by the sounds of it, you are doing exactly that.

I'm not sure what your mental health issue is, but I seem to recall reading soemthing about depression from you elsewhere - tho I may be confusing that with someone else. Anyway, if it is depression that you struggle with, I came across this article earlier today http://www.thatsfit.ca/2009/11/06/3-foods-that-will-make-you-happier/?icid=main|canada-toshiba|dl4|link4|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thatsfit.ca%2F2 009%2F11%2F06%2F3-foods-that-will-make-you-happier%2F

In particular, this may be relevant to you:

Study after study has now shown that people who are depressed have much lower omega-3 DHA levels in their blood, fat tissues, and cerebrospinal fluids - up to 36% lower than happy people. In fact, as DHA levels drop, so do levels of the feel-good brain chemical, serotonin, leaving people grumpy, blue, and down-right depressed. If your DHA levels are low, you have 2.6 times greater risk of getting really crabby and blue compared to someone who keeps those levels high.

On the other hand, boost intake of DHA by including more DHA-rich foods or by taking supplements, and serotonin levels rise and mood improves. Studies show up to a 50% reduction in depression in people who are the toughest to treat and even an improvement in well-being for those battling every-day blues. The evidence is so overwhelming that the American Psychiatric Association in 2006 recommended omega-3s be included in any treatment for depression.

Also, supplementing vitamin B and magnesium have also been shown to help with clinical depression.
 
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Hey there.
i find baggage a harsh word to be honest, what is baggage really? things we cant let go of, parts of our past that just wont die?, emotional mountains that need a little more than hard work?....i think, its definition simply is who we are...thou's things make you the person you are and by the sounds of things you not far off the awsom mark,.
a wise man once said 'if its worth having, its worth fighting for.....
i'm not going to tell you you'll find that awsom guy, that all depends on you, and how you proceed, i know many woman who call men like that a dying breed, thou i also know that they gave up looking for him.
i do understand your fear thou, i to often wonder if i'll land up alone with a million animals to make up for the man i couldnt find, but life is very bitter if our mind set is not at least a little positive, iv just entered a stage in my life where i'v found it all just seems pointless to be honest, everything works in circles day after day month after month and years after years and still i wonder why i bother, then remind myself that its who we are that makes our day. i on the other hand wouldnt mine being alone if it came to that, which is another final thing i find important in what im trying to say, are you happy alone? are you comfortable living with yourself,? its important to learn to love who you are just the way you are, even with all the "baggage" once you learnt or masterd this (which is difficult..i know), its easier for you to build confidence in yourself and attract that amsing guy you search for, and just might find.
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