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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #11  October 26,2009, 5:35pm
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i need to adjust my answer.

If it was up to my head, I'd never date again.

When i have left it up to my heart, well, my heart makes poor decisions.

i need to learn to do both.
 
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Balance, above all.

But I have found the heart to be a most unreliable organ when it comes to important decisions.
 
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Head first.
 
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olrowe is offline olrowe Post #14  November 21,2009, 8:55pm
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I have always used my head and then my heart follows. This has always worked because I have never been in a "bad" relationship. I have no story of cheaters, liars, deceivers, abusers, etc.

Then, some may argue that this is boring and could explain, why at 43, I have never been married or even close to it.
 
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I used to listen to my head, and always found myself not quite satisfied. Content, but content is not enough for me.

I started following my heart when it comes to love, and all other aspects of my life, and it is working out much better for me.

My most recent relationship never would have existed if I had listened to my head, and it was the greatest love I've ever known.
 
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Heart. All the way.
I try not to leave my head too far behind!
But I do like to get swept away.....

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olrowe is offline olrowe Post #17  November 21,2009, 9:32pm
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moonbeam914 wrote :
I used to listen to my head, and always found myself not quite satisfied. Content, but content is not enough for me.

I started following my heart when it comes to love, and all other aspects of my life, and it is working out much better for me.

My most recent relationship never would have existed if I had listened to my head, and it was the greatest love I've ever known.
I am really happy to hear this, because I have recently met someone and I am going in heart first and I have never had this feeling before. You are correct, all other times, I was contented, now, there is something quite magical, though I must admit it has me feeling very vulnerable at the same time.
 
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My heart always overrides the head.
 
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moonbeam914 is offline moonbeam914 Post #19  November 22,2009, 6:44am
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Best of luck to you Olrowe!

IMO, the only gurantee in love is that if you don't take the risk and open yourself up to it, you will never experience it.
 
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