allcamme is offline allcamme Post #1  October 6,2009, 7:47pm
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Hello Community. I'm a bit hesitant to ask, but I'll ask anyway...are we really ready to receive the love of our life? Recently, I had dinner with a wise and good friend of mine who happens to be sharing her life with a man who is not her "type." They have been together for a little over seven years and seem to really be in love. Anyway, during dinner I complained that there were no good men out there, and she just looked at me, chuckled and said, " he's out there! You are just running from it because You will need to give up your comforts." Ever since I've been wondering if she is right? We say we want love and welcome love in our life...we join a site or two(eharmony) or go out and seek this myth...but are we really ready? Are we ready to give up our lists, our walls, our fears and let it in?
 
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YYsmiley is offline YYsmiley Post #2  October 6,2009, 8:07pm
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I'm so ready ! NO DOUBT! Fine, I'll take the challenge to go out of my little comfort zone.

In fact, the 2 guys that I'm working in OC now are not the typical guys I would have fallen for. BUT yes! I'll definitely take things slow now !!! I'll build up my love from friendship !!

Because, I don't wanna be alone in the rest of my life. (LOL, driven by fear )
 
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I hear you, Allcamme! For a little while now I've been poking around here and on Match, and thinking of date-search things to do in everyday life, haven't yet put down the credit card for a subscription or done many of those everyday things (have done a few). Last night I started thinking about what would have to change in my life if I did find a great love, and it turns out I'm ambivalent ... part of me goes "ooohh nooooo" and part is "yes yes!".

Some of it's the trivial "discomforts" (what a great word to use!), but some of it matters more. I like my life very much as it is; relationships take time, focus, energy, commitment etc; what would I give up to create that space? If I found out I was going to die in 3 months, really, not having that love right now would not be high on my list of regrets.

I'm 55 though, and have had love. I suspect it's more crucial for younger people. It was, for me.

A thought: what about giving up lists, walls, and fears even if you are not seeking a relationship? Not doing that *is* something I would regret on my deathbed!
 
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allcamme wrote :
Are we ready to give up our lists, our walls, our fears and let it in?

Yes, yes and yes, definitely yes
 
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tumbleweed is offline tumbleweed Post #5  October 8,2009, 4:32am
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ya im ready,, last girl a dated said she liked the country and such,, we were to get married but one day her 23 year old daughter comes over and i find out the truth,,,do the cows over there always smell like that and them hourses ,were do all these bugs come from? that was her daughter,, later i asked here and she agreed,,,,,,,,,,,i told her i was a country boy and besides they frown on shooting bottles off of the top of your fence in the city,,,,smell what smell,,its called fresh country air and all my doors are unlocked and the keys are all in the ignition,,,now thats what im talking about ,,,
 
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its called fresh country air and all my doors are unlocked and the keys are all in the ignition,,,now thats what im talking about ,,,
Some people think a walk in the park is being out in the countryside and panic when the pavement stops.
 
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Mokkesofie wrote :
Some people think a walk in the park is being out in the countryside and panic when the pavement stops.
ya tried that but they through me out when i stated one of my bon fires amagine that ,, its not like i dont know what im doing,,the nerv of them
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