Dating Men: When He Says X... He Means Y

Dating Men: When He Says X... He Means Y

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Arthur24 is offline Arthur24 Post #1  October 1,2009, 12:40am
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In my opinion, I think both males and females we are very receptive to those things we want to hear, and very dismissive of those we know will hurt us. Maybe it is just myself, but I simply cannot hide away what I am feeling. As Paulo Coelho wrote on his book "The Alchemist", there is an universal language everybody speaks around the world and allow us to communicate with each other in unsuspected ways: it is called the language of enthusiasm. Females are - at least in my short experience - very perceptive, and pretending they need some advice in order to decode what a man is feeling about them is just playing around the idea they might have misunderstood his real intentions. You may want to call it an "involuntary or subconscious honesty". It is a question of personal responsibility to hear our inner voice or dismiss it, and it works both ways for men and women. Maybe the guy is charming enough to give him a second opportunity, but what are the chances he will honour that second chance when he has been clear since the first one? Why should we hurt ourselves so badly just to be sure of what we already know? Again, this is just my personal opinion and the way I feel it.
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  October 1,2009, 4:15am
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This article is a regurgitation from a few months ago.

I don't know why they keep posting these articles about either gender when women use the same code for the same things.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
This article is a regurgitation from a few months ago.

I don't know why they keep posting these articles about either gender when women use the same code for the same things.
Maybe the reason is because everyday new people join and for them the thread is new. Everybody has the right of having an opinion and, who knows? maybe another point of view will give you a new perspective about the topic.
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #4  October 1,2009, 6:54am
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Boy, do I feel like an oddball.
When I say those things in the article, I mean them.
There's no hidden meaning. I mean what I say.

Guess I'm just getting too old for all the "double speak"....
 
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I just have never learned to play the game. Most of those things I have never said or even thought. If or when I have said any of them that is what I meant. I just am not very good at speaking in code.
 
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Wow, so when a guy says these things, it means the exact same thing as when a woman says these things! Who would've thought...
 
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Mickey275 is offline Mickey275 Post #7  December 14,2009, 3:55pm
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Guess what? Women use the same lines. In the interest of entertainment, allow me to share a few other gems that I've personally heard from members of the "fairer" sex:
* "Sorry I've been out of touch the last 2 weeks; my cell phone was in the shop being fixed. However, I did notice that you called; no voice mail messages, though? Damn love-hate relationship with technology!" (note: she later showed me cell phone photos taken at an NBA game she attended WHILE her phone was supposedly "in the shop!" At least keep your storie straight...)
* "Work has been kicking my butt. I've been too exhausted to talk recently, but not too tired to text!"
* "I'm going through some heavy stuff in my personal life right now and am not a fun girl to be around" (note: delivered while canceling a date that SHE ASKED ME OUT ON, at the 11th hour, mind you...)
* "I'm sorry, I just don't feel any connection when we're together" (note: offered after an ultra-expensive 3rd date...also means, "I've found another sugar daddy -- one with a bigger checkbook!")
* "I can't come over your place for movies and dinner tonight. My mom has an emergency meeting with a client of hers, and I have to babysit her six dogs. If they're left alone, they'll kill each other."
Hey, we've all heard some ridiculous lines before! (If you're out there hustling up dates, like you should be, you've probably heard your fair share...) My question is: HOW DUMB DO SOME WOMEN THING WE GUYS ARE? Good grief.
 
 
 
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6. “You’re beautiful.”

Really Means - "I wouldnt mind going to bed with you"

7. “It’s not you, It’s me.”

Really Means - "Its you"
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #10  December 14,2009, 7:29pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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And what complicates things even more is, 'when he says X but means Y'.....she is goes to tremendous lengths to try to find some way to interpret was he says as meaning Z (the thing she wants to hear).
 
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