Dating Men: When He Says X... He Means Y

Dating Men: When He Says X... He Means Y

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WYskywatcher is offline WYskywatcher Post #11  December 14,2009, 8:13pm
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And what complicates things even more is, 'when he says X but means Y'.....she is goes to tremendous lengths to try to find some way to interpret was he says as meaning Z (the thing she wants to hear).
lol. That is so true.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #12  December 14,2009, 8:34pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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lol. That is so true.
Ok....it's time for you to start disagreeing with me. At least once in a while.
 
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roguewolf1 is offline roguewolf1 Post #13  December 14,2009, 8:54pm

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No you are correct. Between the sexes, men tend to be more direct communicators than women.


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Boy, do I feel like an oddball.
When I say those things in the article, I mean them.
There's no hidden meaning. I mean what I say.

Guess I'm just getting too old for all the "double speak"....
 
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WYskywatcher is offline WYskywatcher Post #14  December 14,2009, 9:01pm
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Ok....it's time for you to start disagreeing with me. At least once in a while.
I diagree with you, jayjay.
 
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# 2 Wrong.

When I ask "what did you do this past weekend" I mean exactly that.

#3 Wrong.

When I say I need some space, it can mean 100 different things.

I can love the woman and just need a breather because we were argueing about something, there are problems at my job, problem with my child, problem with a lot of things. By taking off time in a serious relationship (like a day or a weekend) that gives me time to be alone and miss her. If I miss her so much, then I might decide she is the ONE.

Women can't be control freaks and think "Omg! He wants to take time off. Let me harrass and nag him so he changes his mind." Or "ok while he does that I'm going out with Bob."

Maybe there are different levels of asking for space. Like a guy just overwhelmed and mad at his girlfriend compared to a guy who has already made up his mind to leave the woman. Plus I said a few days. This article is saying few weeks. I'd agree if the guys wants a few weeks alone that that is a bad sign.

This arcticle is a Buyers Beware.

4. “I had a nice time. I’ll give you a call.”

Depends on how the guy says it. Is he just too shy to elaborate? 50-50 I think some shy men might say this when they really mean "hey that was great, I'm falling for you." Wow these articles must drive women nuts! No wonder some women are neurotic.

5. “Yes, I’m interested in a serious relationship.”

This happens usually after a woman has applied 300,000 volts of electricity to a man's uhm lower extremities We dont' say this unless we really mean it or want some. Or you have just tortured us for 36 hours with waterboarding.
 
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Question #1; not completely true. Most of my relationships have started as physical relationships; however now that I am a committed believer, I attempt (daily) to manage my thoughts, behaviors and actions toward women in general and particularly those I’m attracted to.

When dating someone, I must guard against compromising positions. Compromising positions can normally be attributed to my focusing on seducing her over building a lasting relationship and to a lesser degree her enticing me. For this reason, I would expand your options for a believer in Christ to the following:

57% —“I don’t feel great chemistry with you.”

37% —“I don’t trust myself alone with you tonight, the lust in my heart is too great. Another night yes, but not tonight; I’m doing all I can to walk away and the longer I consider spending time alone with you the greater the chance that I will attempt to seduce you tonight. I realize that you can tell me to stop if things get too heated; but I am choosing to tell myself to stop now, because I’m admitting to myself that my primary desire in joining you in your home tonight is seek an opportunity to increase the heat.”

6% —“I’m dog tired and I have to get up early.”
 
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When a women takes the hint that is given...Why do men draw you back in with a phone call or a sentence that may suggest you were wrong?  Okay-he said, (when he finally saw me after I got the clue 1 week later) that " I looked beautiful!"  Yes it might have meant that, but why say anything to give me the impression that he was still feeling me?  Or why call a woman with an attitiude because she doesn't call anymore or like she use to?  I was told it was for "ego" purposes! The more women around the better a man feels even if he is really not interested.  What's up with these double messages?  Say what you mean! 
 
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WHY?Because they wanna play hard to get and were only out to USE a woman for sex.I TRY NOT to get TOO involved,because the men of today have TOO MANY stipulationsON'T do this or I'll run away,DON'T call me too soon or I'll diss you etc.They're really NOT worth the trouble and I PREFER to be ALONE,until I find a man that's MATURE enough and NOT into games.After all,they're only looking for sex anyway,AFTER that they play crazy and pretend to wanna be "FRIENDS",well it's TOO LATE to holler that.You should've said that BEFORE sex.It's just a cop out to get sex and run.If the SEX USERS of today,were like the men of forty years ago,we'll have BETTER HUSBANDS,instead of SEX HUSTLERS.
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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WYskywatcher wrote :
I disagree with you, jayjay.
Seeing this old thread again brought back fond memories.
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #20  April 8,2010, 9:32pm
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Zeerkek wrote :
WHY?Because they wanna play hard to get and were only out to USE a woman for sex.I TRY NOT to get TOO involved,because the men of today have TOO MANY stipulationsON'T do this or I'll run away,DON'T call me too soon or I'll diss you etc.They're really NOT worth the trouble and I PREFER to be ALONE,until I find a man that's MATURE enough and NOT into games.After all,they're only looking for sex anyway,AFTER that they play crazy and pretend to wanna be "FRIENDS",well it's TOO LATE to holler that.You should've said that BEFORE sex.It's just a cop out to get sex and run.If the SEX USERS of today,were like the men of forty years ago,we'll have BETTER HUSBANDS,instead of SEX HUSTLERS.
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