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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #1  September 4,2009, 3:25am
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thinks everyone should just ask themselves, WWBBD?

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I think maybe this is my problem. I'm too average ...average looks, average body, average height, average job, average income, average car, average house, average hobbies ...

Trying to figure out what sets me apart from other men, what would be unique and attractive to a woman I'd be attracted to ...I'm coming up - average.

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No question, just venting ...
 
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organizedmayhem is offline organizedmayhem Post #2  September 4,2009, 4:20am
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You're just like the rest of us darlin'... the other 5% are still out there trying to find someone as extraordinary as they claim to be.
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
I think maybe this is my problem. I'm too average ...average looks, average body, average height, average job, average income, average car, average house, average hobbies.
Trying to figure out what sets me apart from other men, what would be unique and attractive to a woman I'd be attracted to I'm coming up - average.
I think the main issue is that men think that women want the same thing that men want--they don't. Look at all those "selection factors." They are either "looks" or "things." Women don't care as much about our looks and things as we do. What they want is intelligence, a well-developed sense of humor, and the ability to treat them with respect.

Put those things in your profile and life and my guess is your "average" will be more "attractive." And maybe the "biker" thing is probably not helping you.
 
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Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #4  September 4,2009, 7:33am
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BikerBeagle, I just had a look at your album and you are definitely not average looking. You are a very attractive man and if I had been 15 years younger........, LOL Unfortunately it is difficult to find someone, we all hope it will happen and I choose to believe it will, otherwise life would be to damn sad.
 
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Just another average guy ,most of profiles I look into are looking for a guy who is 5' 11'' or taller even thou most of the ladies are way shorter,whats up with that.Even at 5'7'' its real tough to make a connection but I definitely make up for my "shortcomings"with kindness,politeness,always putting the lady I'm with first-every time
 
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Just our of curiousity, BikerBeagle.
What's an Aerospace R & D?
More specifically - what's the R & D part?
 
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Heathecliffe is offline Heathecliffe Post #7  September 4,2009, 11:42am
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I don't want to make you feel bad, but I'm going to play 'devil's advocate' with you here. Personally, "averageness" is a big turn off for me. As much as I prefer a man who is stable, owns a home, and isn't inclined to wild behavior, there's something about 'average' that implies 'not exciting'. I have given up dating at present because I look around and all I see are average, normal guys who do nothing for me. How do I pick a guy if there's nothing to differentiate him from all the others? It's sort of a peeve I have with the male gender. I wish more men had a capacity for standing out in a crowd - it would make dating a lot easier for me!

The good news is, most women don't seem to be as concerned about this as I do. To a woman who is attracted to your essence you will be anything but average. Are you attracted to women who are especially unique or exotic? Maybe there's a lack of compatibility there that transcends looks, lifestyle, and possessions.

Everybody wants to fit in someplace, but nobody wants to be 'average'. To be so is to disappear, in a way. Like a friend of mine says, "You're special ... just like everybody else!" I suspect you categorize yourself as 'average' and refer to that as being a problem because that is what you fear being. If you fear being what you define yourself as being then you probably have some unfinished business to attend to.

Just some philosophical banter from someone who is working on her own issues with 'averageness'
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
I think maybe this is my problem. I'm too average ...average looks, average body, average height, average job, average income, average car, average house, average hobbies ...

Trying to figure out what sets me apart from other men, what would be unique and attractive to a woman I'd be attracted to ...I'm coming up - average.

*sigh*

No question, just venting ...
Why whine about it on an internet website and why not go change that.

Don't like your body? Hit the gym. Change your diet.
Want to make more money? Seek new jobs, advance your career, seek a promotion.
Want to change your looks? Become more stylish, learn about style, find a style that you like. Own it.

Average hobbies? Why aren't they the most awesome things in the world? You know why, cause you don't believe in yourself nor have confidence. I like fishing and I talk to women about how I caught a marlin and how it almost tipped over our little boat on the coast of Miami.....I am passionate about it. Women like that regardless of what your interest is.
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :

Trying to figure out what sets me apart from other men, what would be unique and attractive to a woman I'd be attracted to ...I'm coming up - average.
What kind of women are you attracted to? Are they also average? Not familiar with the state of affairs in KS, but in NYC, we're overflowing with average and above average women who couldn't get p-d on if they were on fire. C'mon up
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Stop thinking of yourself as "average" and you won't be "average." I have often wondered if I am exciting enough or attractive enough.. don't guys want super models and women with glamorous jobs and extreme talents? not necessarily. So I may not be Cindy Crawford, but I have a lot to offer and when I know it, men know it. I often feel very average, but when I look at my good qualities and am happy with myself, I attract a lot of men. Some women will be attracted to grand things like wild lifestyles, money, rock stars, even bad boys and players... whatever. Other women will like the "average" guy who she can be herself with and do everyday things with and have comfort and security. What do you consider above average? I have dated famous people and can tell you that as "exciting" and "above-average" as that seems, it was kind of a pain. I have dated extremely good looking men and never felt I could really open up and be myself. I have dated very wealthy/top professional men and didn't feel warmth or companionship. I have dated pro athletes and the sex wasn't good. (I know, I have been around. and I still wonder if I am average). SO you never know what you are going to get and who you are going to click with for a life partner. I , personally, like confidence, stability, friendship, good lovers... a man who will be a gentleman no matter how "average" he is. Look around you when you are out. DOn't you see a lot of "average" people holding hands, laughing, out with the family? Let your confidence in yourself shine and women will like you. You may have some hobby a women would really love. Or a sense of humor, a sense of compassion. Maybe you volunteer-- women love a man who cares and takes time to help people. who knows. don't sell yourself short. Feel above average and you will be. or we should just stop using that label anyway cuz it's all subjective. What's average to me may not be average to you. If you mean "boring" then stop being boring! do things! go take classes, go on walks, travel, etc. Your problem sounds like confidence or self esteem, not averageness. Create a fun life for yourself that you enjoy and then women will show up.
 
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