Too 'average' to be dateable?


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Shelby is offline Shelby Post #11  September 4,2009, 8:10pm
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I don't think you're average, I think you're humble.

And you're probably at least at the edge of the first standard deviation above the mean of the bell-shaped curve of "normal", and probably somewhere in that 2nd standard deviation. (You're an engineer, so you know what I'm saying!)

I think what happens is that many women are trying to find that guy in the upper 2nd or 3rd standard deviation. Maybe they think those guys are more exciting, wealthier, more intelligent, have more chemistry.

But in my experience, those guys also have demonstrated some serious baggage, even some personality disorders and questionnable character. It's happened too often, enough to make me question my "check-list" and be much more discerning about what qualities I look for when I meet new matches.

I'm currently dating (albeit casually) two EH guys that I previously probably would not have seen more than a few times before calling it off. (They didn't create the fireworks that I'd experienced with other guys -- but those relationships also fizzled quickly.) I've been able to appreciate their stability, calm, likeability, thoughtfulness and kindness. They are good guys, and so are you!
 
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thinks everyone should just ask themselves, WWBBD?

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mercury12 wrote :
Just our of curiousity, BikerBeagle.
What's an Aerospace R & D?
More specifically - what's the R & D part?
Research & Development. I'm actually an I.T. guy - not an engineer - working in sub-group for "manufacturing systems".
 
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Thanks all for your comments. I guess I'm just going through a 'dark' time right now - for reasons not entirely related to my dating life, or lack thereof - and I just need to get my head back in the game.
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
I think maybe this is my problem. I'm too average ...average looks, average body, average height, average job, average income, average car, average house, average hobbies ...

Trying to figure out what sets me apart from other men, what would be unique and attractive to a woman I'd be attracted to ...I'm coming up - average.

*sigh*

No question, just venting ...

Ordinary Average Guy
I know how you feel I am one of thes also !!!
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
I think maybe this is my problem. I'm too average ...average looks, average body, average height, average job, average income, average car, average house, average hobbies ...

Trying to figure out what sets me apart from other men, what would be unique and attractive to a woman I'd be attracted to ...I'm coming up - average.

*sigh*

No question, just venting ...
You're on eHA... that makes you above average to start!
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
I think maybe this is my problem. I'm too average ...average looks, average body, average height, average job, average income, average car, average house, average hobbies ...

Trying to figure out what sets me apart from other men, what would be unique and attractive to a woman I'd be attracted to ...I'm coming up - average.

*sigh*

No question, just venting ...
Simple, what sets you apart is the fact that you ARE attracted and interested in her. Unless the women you are going for are the super un-average hot ones most average women really don't have hordes of men lining up at their doors.
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
I think maybe this is my problem. I'm too average ...average looks, average body, average height, average job, average income, average car, average house, average hobbies ...

Trying to figure out what sets me apart from other men, what would be unique and attractive to a woman I'd be attracted to ...I'm coming up - average.

*sigh*

No question, just venting ...

This OP is almost two years old.

(Also, it sort of sounds like a Charlie Brown quote to me. But maybe it's a suggestion from the yellow-shirt and word "beagle?")
 
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