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saltndlight is offline saltndlight Post #1  August 16,2009, 1:35pm
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I don't know about you....i made a few good friends online, but now that's it.There we are stuck in the no where land...and my male friends complaint they are also tired of being single and alone, but they don't make a move to have a relationship with me....how frustrating this is for me
Now some other thing i'd like to add: EH has not been a good site for me as well...but i've read some of your posts so i realized this is a major problem, because at first i thought i didn't had reply because i live in Portugal.
It seems all the opposite of what you wish is exactly what happens.If i get interested in a guy he walks away, and if i get a guy interested in me i don't feel any attraction for him.

Life is hard...or maybe we are the hard people???
Note:i didn't make the first move because they already told me didn't wanted a long distance relationship and i didn't want to play the idiot lol
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Wait a minute. I think I remember your picture. I thought you were involved in a relationship with a man who had some kids? I thought I posted there...
 
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Ditto. Why are you waiting for them to make a move? Why don't you make a move? Try it you might like it. E Harmony is really boring.
 
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eH is totally nerve-racking. This is my first and last time using an online service.
 
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saltndlight is offline saltndlight Post #5  August 16,2009, 2:29pm
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Hey i didn't say i was "involved", for now we are just friends ok?hope this answers you lol
 
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j0hn8andy I am not involved with that male friend...yet....we are just friends, and yes he does have kids!!!!But thanks for remember me lol
 
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saltndlight wrote :
j0hn8andy I am not involved with that male friend...yet....we are just friends, and yes he does have kids!!!!But thanks for remember me lol
I remembered the pic. You were asking if we thought it would be OK to get involved with him & the kids.

I remembered being one of the posters saying "Sure, go ahead, why not?"

Pretty good memory!
 
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Saltndlight,
People take the best out of any situation if they really try. You paid money to have a subscription to EH yet you wait for the MEN to make the move? If you're interested in them you need to make a few changes. First: stop calling men that are potential mates and "friends". If you look at them like this, you also treat them like this. Men that know a woman as a friend will NOT try to date her. We've been rejected too many times by lady "friends" to try that again.
Second: you are very right...men that show interest in you lose their attraction in your eyes. The same man might have acted uninterested in you and you would have gone crazy for him. This is the cruel joke human evolution has played on us. But, you can reverse this. Take a look again at some of those guys that you put in the "not attracted" category. And remember that your attraction for someone is governed by an illogical thought - by how disinterested they are in you.
 
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MCMLXXII wrote :
eH is totally nerve-racking. This is my first and last time using an online service.
Seems that since you tried eHarmony that the success you have in real life is not so good either
 
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boccabum is correct. If you treat your matches as "friend" then they are going to feel they are in the friend zone and not be interested in being romantically involved.
 
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