Nanette is offline Nanette Post #41  February 22,2010, 5:06pm
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see. we have to be superwomen.

i think i am checking out now
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #42  February 22,2010, 5:06pm
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yeah lizzie i finally got it! it helped to read some of the comments on this thread
 
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bigfincat is offline bigfincat Post #43  February 22,2010, 5:17pm
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If I am attracted to a woman physically then where she falls on the scale would be pretty unimportant. Femininity is more just the reality that she is in fact a woman with the right body parts in the right places. A physically attractive woman cannot hide it from me no matter how hard she tries!

The problem that I see with the concept is that why do we need someone to make us feel masculine or feminine? I would expect that to be a constant.

Actually, IMO if a guy needs a certain type of woman or anything else outside of himself to feel manly.... then he isn't!! Little things in life would not bother him so much.

I typically don't see people on such scales.

I noticed people mention the word authority & equate it to some degree to manliness. That word has no meaning to me. Noone has authority over me, nor I over them.

Even at work, I will work with people but NEVER above or below them.

I think that is one difference in viewpoint. Some people view the use of authority as a factor in attractiveness. I find the concept to be meaningless & void.
 
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Spider is offline Spider Post #44  February 22,2010, 5:53pm
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I see a big, big difference between girlie and womanly. From what I see where I live, "girlie" equates to frivolous. Girlie is being preoccupied with makeup and elaborately-styled hair (and omg, the entire conversations about hair products!) and flirting and giggling and simpering when a guy looks at you. So, no, I wouldn't be interested in a guy who acted like that.

I am so not girlie.
But I don't consider myself "manly," - though I've not yet seen a good definition of that, either. To me, manly would mean a guy who was secure in his masculinity, with a quiet confidence and the ability to express himself and his feelings, and who had a healthy sex drive - which includes a commitment to insuring his partner's sexual enjoyment. I don't need an alpha guy, or a macho man, or someone to (gulp) kill spiders. (I let the cats take care of the smaller critters)

If he'll do the dishes and clean the litter boxes, then those are extra bonus points.

YMMV. Definitions differ.
 
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LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #45  February 22,2010, 7:24pm

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It is interesting. I saw a post in the tom-boy thread that had a post from a guy saying basically he likes tom-boy's until that line has been crossed that she is too boy for him.

I think that post just went on and no big deal, and I am sure many guys understood what that guy meant...

but when you flip that thought and change it to some women may like sensitive men until they are just too girlie for them, everyone is up in arms.

It is the same concept just in reverse. There is nothing more inherently mean and demeaning in saying it one way or the other.

However, I think people infer a negative connotation when you change the sexes.

Not sure why. Maybe society accepts women that can act like men more readily, than they can accept men that act like women?
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