Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #1  July 11,2009, 2:23pm
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I wasn't all that excited about my 30-year class reunion last night, and only really went because another girl friend from school did. I don't think I would have gone alone. I mean, if I didn't care that much about those people in high school why should I care about them now? Our 20th & 25th reunions were just "meh" (as my son would put it), so why would I expect the 30th to be any different? But I'm SO glad we went!

Our graduating class was so big, about 700 kids, that I didn't know most of them. But apparently I've forgotten most of them I did know. Or maybe I'm just more memorable than I think I am.... So many people recognized me and said hi to me and started talking about stuff we did all the way back to junior high and elementary school and I had NO idea who these people were! It was kinda nice that they seemed so excited to see me, tho.

One guy I did remember... he was pretty geeky in high school but looks hot now. But... he lives in North Carolina now (our school is in Omaha) and, tho he didn't say anything outright to make me think this, I think he may be gay. Never married, no kids, works for a design firm, and showed NO flirtatious interest in me or my friend. Not that every guy should hit on me, but I was just getting a gay vibe from him.

Another guy that I dated in 8th grade was there. Actually, he and his wife (who shares my first name), were organizers of the event. They weren't popular in high school, but she was acting like she was everybody's best friend. (Gag.) I remember him as being tall, thin and blond. He's now short, fat and gray. I think I made a good call in dumping him way back then. They're both right-wing religious fanatics now.

A guy who is arguably the most famous guy from our class (he has written and performed in plays, been a stand-up comedian, and used to be a writer for Seinfeld) recognized me before I recognized him. At our 10-year reunion, when he was writing for Seinfeld, he didn't show up but there was a life-size poster of him that some people were signing. I remember I wrote something obscene across his crotch. They were going to send the poster back to him. I don't think he was at our 20th or 25th year reunions. If he remembered my obscene remark on his crotch he didn't say anything....

One girl, Suzie, that I always thought was soooooo pretty with long strawberry blonde hair but I wasn't in her clique was soooo excited to see me! I was really surprised at that! She'd found some photo of me and some other girls from elementary school that she thought was hilarious and can't wait to e-mail it to me. She was so pretty in school... I wanted to BE Suzie. She's still pretty, but now I'm glad I'm ME! I aged better than she did - meow.

Another guy that I had a crush on in high school was there. He has a very pretty wife who was so nice and I was actually talking to her for quite a while before he came over. I confessed my HS crush to her and she thought it was funny. When he heard it he started really eyeballing me! But he was drunk. I'm glad they live in Dallas now....

But the best part was talking to Lou. I seriously didn't remember Lou, but apparently we were classmates from elementary school all the way through high school. He was a good friend of my cousin who was also in our class. Well, talking about my cousin gave us a good starting point for conversation... and we talked for HOURS! He's never been married (small yellow flag for now - gotta make sure he's not a commitment phobe....) and has no kids. We talked about all sorts of things, and agree on lots of life outlooks, including politics and cats (he has 2). His parents died a few years ago (as did mine) and he bought their house and lives in it. We're both night owls and he and I seem to share the same sense of humor.

Before we knew it, it was last call. Lou and I exchanged phone numbers. He walked me to my car, and we hugged... and kissed. And he's already sent me a few text messages. And we'll be talking when I'm away on a work trip next week. And he wants to go out when I get back. And I'm sitting here smiling thinking about it! That's gotta be a good sign, right?

So... I would advise going to class reunions whenever they occur. If it turns out to be a dud, hey, it was only one night out of your life every 5 or 10 years. And you never know... you could reconnect with someone you didn't even know you had a connection with!
 
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It sounds like you had a great time! A great endorsement for venturing a bit out of one's comfort zone, too.

I, too, have been surprised at how much I've enjoyed high school reunions (the first I attended was the 20th, which I helped to plan). You have some important experiences in common with everyone, but you have the chance to interact as adults and leave all of the teenage angst and drama back in high school...lol.

Have fun getting to know your former classmate!
 
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Ack! I just looked and realized how LONG my post was! I'm sure I lost a lot of you after the first paragraph! LOL!

If you read the first part and the last 3 parts I won't be offended at all....
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
So... I would advise going to class reunions whenever they occur. If it turns out to be a dud, hey, it was only one night out of your life every 5 or 10 years. And you never know... you could reconnect with someone you didn't even know you had a connection with!
You had a good time and that is great for you. However there are other experiences. -In my travels, I've seen high school reunion refugees drinking their miseries away at various hotel bars and those sights were not pretty.
 
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i moved to another part of town when i started high school so... i had to start over.

i quickly realized that a lot of the kids at the new school were stuck up and snotty to other students based on brand name clothes etc so, i never bothered getting to know them.

i have not gone to a single reunion since i graduated from h/s 24 years ago and do not regret it one bit.

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i quickly realized that a lot of the kids at the new school were stuck up and snotty to other students based on brand name clothes etc so, i never bothered getting to know them.

There were people like that at my school, too, but it's amazing what 20 - 30 years will do to equalize people. Most of the people I talked to last night were people I don't remember knowing in high school... including the guy I connected with... so I wouldn't let the fact that you "never bothered getting to know them" in high school be a hold-back. Almost anyone you meet online is someone you've never known before, too.

Look up your old school and go to their reunions if you preferred that crowd. Worst case is you'll spend an evening with a bunch of people your age, many of whom will be single again.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
There were people like that at my school, too, but it's amazing what 20 - 30 years will do to equalize people. Most of the people I talked to last night were people I don't remember knowing in high school... including the guy I connected with... so I wouldn't let the fact that you "never bothered getting to know them" in high school be a hold-back. Almost anyone you meet online is someone you've never known before, too.

Look up your old school and go to their reunions if you preferred that crowd. Worst case is you'll spend an evening with a bunch of people your age, many of whom will be single again.
the movie 'the breakfast club' came out in my senior year of h/s. i realized they were making fun of my school LOL.

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Jedi_Scout wrote :
You had a good time and that is great for you. However there are other experiences. -In my travels, I've seen high school reunion refugees drinking their miseries away at various hotel bars and those sights were not pretty.
That would seem to be more a problem of theirs than of the reunion? If people are still holding on to hurts and grudges from 10 - 20 - 30 years ago they don't really have high school to blame for that...

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There were people like that at my school, too, but it's amazing what 20 - 30 years will do to equalize people. Most of the people I talked to last night were people I don't remember knowing in high school... including the guy I connected with... so I wouldn't let the fact that you "never bothered getting to know them" in high school be a hold-back. Almost anyone you meet online is someone you've never known before, too.

Look up your old school and go to their reunions if you preferred that crowd. Worst case is you'll spend an evening with a bunch of people your age, many of whom will be single again.
That's exactly it. People grow up. By the time I attended a reunion, it mattered not at all what group or clique you were identified with all those years before. In fact, it was especially interesting getting to talk with people whose paths I didn't really cross much in high school, whether they had been athletes or geeks or stoners or outcasts or the reigning "cool" kids or whatever.

Personally, I'm not inclined to brand people with labels from high school for the rest of their lives. That seems awfully unfair to me...
 
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I for one read the whole thing, I find your posts interesting and for the most part agree with what you post as I have said in a couple of them. Going to a reunion and hooking up with someone from your high school days would be cool but then again, this online world lets you meet people you would have never met and maybe even find your true soul mate. Thought mine was in high school but I surely think different now but then again we were married for 18 years.
 
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That would seem to be more a problem of theirs than of the reunion? If people are still holding on to hurts and grudges from 10 - 20 - 30 years ago they don't really have high school to blame for that...
When I spoke with the individuals it was more of a thing where they were again the recipients of snubs and insults by the kids who treated them poorly in the past.

I agree that people should grow up but the reality is some don't and they will try to use methods that have worked for them in the past. It shouldn't happen but it does. There are some people who I'm sure have grown up and become decent individuals. There are others who I know are the same messes they were back then. (One of them called me up after nine years to tell me which classmates and teachers she had sex with. This was a girl I knew but never dated. It definitely was an odd call.)

I think the original poster's comments regarding how well people aged, who got fat, who may be gay, etc. illustrates some of the pettiness that comes out at reunions and in addition to old animosities is why attending a reunion is not something that deserves a broad endorsement.

Maybe some individuals matured into decent people. The idea of scheduling some time and flying in to find out seems like a waste of time and effort to me.
 
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