Considering whether I'll be single forever??


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curlygirlpdx is offline curlygirlpdx Post #51  March 15,2010, 10:51pm
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Oh man, I really feel like this right now. I'm 36 and want to stay optimistic but it's hard sometimes. In just the last week, I've heard, what's taking you so long to find a boyfriend? Why are you still single?. . . uggghhh. I don't think I'm being too picky, I think I've just learned not to settle or even start something when I know it will not work. Makes for what feels like such an indefinite loneliness sometimes but I try to stay optimistic.
 
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At 34, I'm starting to realize that while I can be a great bf, I'm probably not husband material..
 
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Mari9251952 is offline Mari9251952 Post #53  March 16,2010, 7:32pm
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I think that accepting singleness within the realm of possibilities is healthy. However, when I was single I never let that possibility keep me from pursuing the dream of finding a special someone, I worked hard at it and never gave up. And you wonder, did I..... I did, I did!!!! and so can you!!
 
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I understand how you feel. I think I have given up completely myself.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #55  March 17,2010, 7:12am
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I don't know why I thought of this story with this thread, but I'll tell it in case it's an encouragement to someone.

I once worked with someone that got married fairly young and, according to her, did everything "right". She married a guy that believed the way that she did (Christian) and was "perfect" according to all of the exterior things. They eventually got a divorce. In her mid 30s or so, she had a friend that just broke up with someone so they went out to a bar. At that point in her life she was completely not interested in a relationship, she wasn't out drinking (she drank diet coke) and was just there for her friend. They were sitting there and this guy came up to her and started talking to her. He started saying stuff like he owned his own business blah blah, and she was, like, "yeah, right." so he says to her that he has the financials from his business in his car so he was going to get them. He got them and actually showed them to her!

Anyway, they got to know each other got married and the rest was history. Is history. I met her because she was working with him in his company, and I was working for them. He was a super nice guy too. I really liked them both.

You can meet that person anytime, anywhere. Be open to it!
 
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byte is offline byte Post #56  March 19,2010, 5:02pm
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I feel the same way. I'm not going to stop looking, but I feel like I definitely have WAY worse luck than most people. I have put a lot of effort into finding someone, but not much to show for it. Kinda sucks, but I also believe that society puts way too much emphasis on pairing up. It's not the end of the world to be single.
 
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Michael1974 is offline Michael1974 Post #57  March 19,2010, 10:53pm
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I am in the same boat - I am 36 like some of the other people posting here. I believe it will happen or it will not. If the opportunity is there I will certainly go for it.
 
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Capt_L_Mandrake is offline Capt_L_Mandrake Post #58  March 21,2010, 1:48pm
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I feel this way quite often, and it has been hitting me hard with this new job simply because of an immense lack of time now. My social life is almost gone (and with that many opportunities go away) as my schedule dosen't line up with the scheduals of firends anymore, and "going out" is almost simply not a luxury that I cannot allocate time to. Even when greeting a good friend good by (hes going into the army) I had to leave the party early in order to get sleep for the next day and I felt like a jerk . I do what I can though, I'm off to a bonfire next weekend and I'll see how things go.
Despite my situation as for now, even though it seems almost hopeless, I press on. A big thing for me is how much I may have to change my life in order to even get the opportunity to meet women, and even though I have a good job now, tossing it out the window is not off the table. And in case your wondering, it is a very male dominated job with little to no female interaction.
 
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