avinash is offline avinash Post #1  July 9,2009, 8:57am
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Does anyone else have concerns that their standards may be too high with regards to their "dream partner"? And that it may be unfair to the people they are matched with? I've always wondered that myself, if perhaps i'm being unfair to the girls I get matched with in that regard, when I compare them to my vision of my "dream girl", and i'm not really even talking about looks, even in just personality I have concerns that I might be expecting too much.
 
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I think whether you expect too much depends a lot on what you have to offer in return. If you expect a lot but bring nothing much to the table, then you are expecting too much. If you do bring a lot to the table and want a partner who does the same - it's not too much and you'll find each other eventually.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
I think whether you expect too much depends a lot on what you have to offer in return. If you expect a lot but bring nothing much to the table, then you are expecting too much. If you do bring a lot to the table and want a partner who does the same - it's not too much and you'll find each other eventually.
I think I bring a lot to the table, personality wise at least, but i'm probably not the most objective judge
 
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Just keep dreaming . . . maybe she will show up some day.
 
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txbubba wrote :
“I exist as I am, that is enough, if no other in the world be aware I sit content, and if each and all be aware I sit content” - Walt Whitman
I agree with this quote. I also agree with DancingFool; as long as you're not expecting everything with nothing in return, then I think patience is the key. Don't give up, and don't settle for qualities less than that with which you can be truly happy. You'll find her. In the meantime, find contentment within yourself. If you are happy with you, then the right woman will be, as well.
 
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I had the dream partner. It didn't work out.
 
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I had the dream partner. It didn't work out.
Been there, too.
 
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I find myself thinking this often. I don’t know what to do about it, though.
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