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Well, it also depends on your ability to attract a mate too. If you have options, you're going to have higher standards.

But I agree with the poster that says "aim high". You also gotta know what you REALLY want in a mate, and what would be nice to have.
- July 9th, 2009, 06:48 pm
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Yeah, I had a dream partner who bailed on the marriage. My standards are probably so high now that I'll be single for a long time.
- July 9th, 2009, 07:35 pm
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I sometimes look at a prospect similar to a stock. Except in my way of thinking a person's stock value can actually go negative. Anyone with no stock value or a negative value is not worthy of consideration. Obviously, the higher the stock value the closer a person moves into that "dream" category. I'm not chasing only gals with the gold or platinum stock value but I do believe the gal should have a relatively decent value. Why would I want to dilute my own stock value by taking on someone with a negative value?
- July 9th, 2009, 08:34 pm
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Could you be going by the wrong "standards" and overlooking your "dream partner", who may be standing right in front of you, as a result?

I love results, and when I'm not achieving what I aim for, I choose to change my strategy, which usualy implies a revision of "standards".

And I generally find that Real Partners are much more interesting than Dream Partners, even if they come in completely unexpected packages or situations.

So, I guess I'm just saying try to keep your mind open, rather than cyclical, and you never know what you may find. And Good Luck!
- July 9th, 2009, 10:27 pm
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Mr_Right wrote :
Well, it also depends on your ability to attract a mate too. If you have options, you're going to have higher standards.

But I agree with the poster that says "aim high". You also gotta know what you REALLY want in a mate, and what would be nice to have.
I can't believe I agree with you, Mr, especially on a post with no mention of any kind of crinologies...
- July 9th, 2009, 10:33 pm
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I tend to think, that good things come to people who wait...just being yourself,keeping busy,and worrying about the matters that you care for most help. Ive learned alot about myself already.
- July 9th, 2009, 10:49 pm
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Mr_Right wrote :
Well, it also depends on your ability to attract a mate too. If you have options, you're going to have higher standards.

But I agree with the poster that says "aim high". You also gotta know what you REALLY want in a mate, and what would be nice to have.
... and those of us who *aren't* attractive, who unfortunately *have* high standards, are going to be lonely for a while yet *grin*

Dream girls and boys lack substance. Having a clear idea of what you really want along with what you realistically can expect is always good. And sometimes you find that those dreams weren't far off reality after all. Keep the ability to dream, and dream big, but temper that with the knowledge that people have failings and it's okay to love them because of and in spite of that fact.
- July 9th, 2009, 11:12 pm
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Wootz wrote :
Dream girls and boys lack substance.
What is wrong with you today, Wootz? You always manage to cheer me up, but today you are telling me we cannot dream up attractive boys and girls with substance?

What else am I going to dream of? His neck and shoulders dressed in metal with no head attached? That's not even Cervantes, you know

And beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. And this particular behoder finds those trees so irresistible that she needs to visit them every night, just to see them again...
- July 10th, 2009, 02:45 am
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I have the opposite problem. My friends tell me I'm too accepting and my standards are too low.

That definitely doesn't work, either.

Keep the standards high.
- July 10th, 2009, 04:16 am
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
What is wrong with you today, Wootz? You always manage to cheer me up, but today you are telling me we cannot dream up attractive boys and girls with substance?

What else am I going to dream of? His neck and shoulders dressed in metal with no head attached? That's not even Cervantes, you know

And beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. And this particular behoder finds those trees so irresistible that she needs to visit them every night, just to see them again...
Perfectly stated Wootz. Not depressing at all. I think Moon missed the point. "Dream Partner" doesn't mean "Fantasy Partner"

I don't think anyone here meant they are "dreaming up" the perfect fantasy man or woman...just that they know what they want, and that they want what they want. I'm the same way, and after sifting through so many bland profiles, it begins to feel as if those of us who "know what we want" are being too picky.

Don't give up! As Wootz said, aim high, look for what you want, but don't just toss them aside because they have shortcomings. We are all human. Even those of us who know exactly what we want have shortcomings--But I wouldn't include 'aiming high in the love department' one of them.

- July 10th, 2009, 11:22 am
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