How to tell if a guy wants you or just your body


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ShainaKay is offline ShainaKay Post #1  July 8,2009, 4:21pm
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Hey everyone! I'm new to message boards, so I thought I'd give it a try. So recently I met a guy and things turned out to be exactly how I thought they would turn out. Even so, I still can't tell if he was sincere or was just trying to get in my pants. To start, no he didn't get into my pants, but after flirting, hanging out, flirting some more, talking every night, then finding out his ex still wants him back and his whole demeanor changed after we hung out a few weeks ago, I can't tell if he was really interested in me, or interested in another aspect. So I'd love to hear what you guys, and girls, would say to how a guy would act when he a) just wants to sleep with you and nothing more, and b) actually wants to get to know you and possibly take things further.

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avinash is offline avinash Post #2  July 9,2009, 6:47am
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Keep him wating and then see if he's still around in a few months, that'll answer your question
 
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txbubba is offline txbubba Post #3  July 9,2009, 7:08am

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eat until you gain 70 pounds. if he sticks around, then he wants you and not just your body
 
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ShainaKay wrote :
his whole demeanor changed after we hung out a few weeks ago, I can't tell if he was really interested in me, or interested in another aspect.
You say this in past tense, so you are done with him? Obviously if his demeanor changed because of his ex, regardless if he wants you or your body clearly his strings are not loose yet and you should ... STAY AWAY

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Honestly, you probably won't be able to tell except in extreme cases. Players know that, in order to get to the end zone, he has to get past all of your defensive line ...

...but I'll give it a shot:

If all he seems to talk about is sex or sexually-related matters, early and often, in your relationship, or every conversation somehow always gets turned around to sex or sexually-related matters, he's probably at least preoccupied with the subject so much that he can't take his mind off of it long enough to get to know you on any other level.

Example: If he asks "have you ever played tennis?", he's at least feigning enough interest in you to get into your pants =P ...if he asks, "have you ever played tennis naked?", you can rest assured he's got a one-track mind.

It really just boils down to this one simple concept: If his general way of communicating with you - either verbally or with his actions - makes you feel like a sex object ...then, darlin', you probably are. Learn to follow your gut instinct.
 
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Hard to say. You should assume 2 things:

1) All men want sex.
2) Effort is proportionate to interest. Men are wise investors of their time, money and resources when it comes to sex and relationships.

So does he treat you like a short-term project or a long-term investment?

If he just wants sex, he'll treat you like a project. Your interactions will be hot when he's working on your project and cold when he's busy with other projects. When he's not getting any from you, he will eventually cut his losses and look elsewhere.

You'll keep feeling confused and having doubts about his intentions. Only time can tell. Until you have clarity, you should follow your own principles on whether you want to get physically involved. If you feel even the *slightest* pressure, you most likely are pressured!

If he's looking for an exclusive and meaningful relationship, he'll put all his eggs in one basket. He'll invest more of himself in you over time. He'll see you 3x a week, ensure your happiness and well-being, and share his life with you.

The best test is to see him 3x a week for 3 months but refrain from having sex, and you'll definitely know if he's for real.
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txbubba wrote :
eat until you gain 70 pounds. if he sticks around, then he wants you and not just your body
excellent answer! lol
No, keep him waiting until you know if he's worth it.
 
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Gee...

I thought, with the title of this thread, Shaina was going to give us guys some pointers on how to score.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  July 10,2009, 10:31am
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I wouldn't recommend the 'gaining 70 pounds' strategy....but the 'keeping him waiting' might be viable. However, just keep in mind that if he's really interested in a relationship....this also means he's going to want 'your body' as well.
 
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i feel the need to do a Rod Stewart impression every time i read the title of this thread. It's almost overwhelming.
 
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