Have you ever been discriminated against on the basis of your appearance?


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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #1  July 5,2009, 2:49pm
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This question came up in an exchange via the PM, and I thought it would make for an interesting discussion … well, a funny discussion would be even better!
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Ya want a thesis or what? Frog, are you an engineer?
 
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D_Lion wrote :
This question came up in an exchange via the PM, and I thought it would make for an interesting discussion … well, a funny discussion would be even better!

Could be race and such, but I’m also thinking of your dress or personal style … age, gender, what you drive, how you speak .. anything.

Can you give an example in your general life, your occupational experience, and your dating?

I like to wear nice dresses/outfits with matching shoes and bags when going out. I have been turned down more times than I care to remember and got the explanation, "you look posh" meaning "you look like someone I can't afford." They didn't even bother to get to know me.
 
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[FONT=Arial]Did you try to make any changes to avoid this, explain to the individuals involved, or ignore that kind of person and just stick to being as you were?
 
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I say I'm afixinto. Here in Texas that's "correct" verb usage. Unfortunately, so too it was for former President Boffo Bush.

Shortly after I moved to Phoenix I didn't know the understood rule that when turning left 5 more cars are "allowed" to run the red light. There was a cop in back of me. I stopped. And he gave me a ticket.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Did you try to make any changes to avoid this, explain to the individuals involved, or ignore that kind of person and just stick to being as you were?
I didn't get it until someone kindly told me. But why should I change what I like to wear? Sometimes you can explain until you're blue in your face, sometimes you can try and explain and it just gets worse.
 
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[quote=D_Lion;663806]well, a funny discussion would be even better!
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Has anyone heard of one of the last prejudicial behaviors still out there, Heightism? Taller people get the better job offers, have more ladies interested in them, and get more respect (in general). There's a lot of heightists out there. Even saying someone has a "Napoleonic complex" what does that mean; that they (short men) want power "despite the fact that they're short"? Wouldn't that be a little like saying a woman of power is "macho" ?
 
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Yes-I sure did-a few decades ago I was one of the first women in a traditionally male job. I had to wear boots, jeans, flannel shirts and a hard hat to work.
I am tall and was strong from being athletic and from this physical job (ok-I was a line'man' for the phone co. that was the actual job name).
Men ALL assumed I was a lesbian. Even the guys I worked with until they learned I was married and had 3 children..I don't get very personal at work.
On the job, I was patted on the ass and treated like there was something wrong with me because I didn't stay home and take care of my husband (i was putting him thru college).
Over the years, as more women workers came into the trades it got better but WOW was it ever tough in early days.
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Sure I have! I was once a long haired, goatee wearing, hippee looking dude. As you can tell, this caused some "problems" working and dating in the American South.

A girl I was going to ask out turned me down because "daddy gonna shoot you, ifn’ you come ‘round lookin’ lahk thayat."

Being a skinny guy, I get a lot of skepticism about whether or not I can "do the job." Catching newspapers and loading a truck in Knoxville I actually got the "you sure you wanna do this son?" question from the supervisor on site. I just smiled. When it came down to me, him, and his regular crew (four guys total) because the rest couldn’t keep up, he apologized.

Speaking as I do and looking as I do, most folk tend to think a bit less of me. In New York I actually heard somebody whisper "They’re wearing *shoes!* Are you sure they’re from the South?"

I never dress up unless there is a good reason. I once had to run in to work to pick up my check when I was on my way to a funeral and the guards tried to escort me off the property! I had to show them my access card, driver’s license, and tell them who my shift supervisor’s name was before they’d let me in!

When I actually clean up my language and speak like my mother taught me to, I constantly get asked (by folks who don’t know me): "You’re not from around here, are you?" They think I *couldn’t* have been raised in the south without that thick, countrified accent!
 
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