Your Body Image Match: It May Be Different than You Think

Your Body Image Match: It May Be Different than You Think

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Your Body Image Match: It May Be Different than You Think


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Luv2RideHorses is offline Luv2RideHorses Post #1  July 2,2009, 9:49am
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I have found that most men like a woman with "a little meat on her bones".     I've spoken to men and 99% say they'd rather hug a woman who's a little "fluffy" rather than a bag of bones.  They don't like wrapping their arms around a skeleton.  When it comes to men, neither do I.  I prefer someone I can wrap my arms and not feel his ribs when I hug him.    Besides, if one desires to do the horizontal mambo, those hipbones can be dangerous.    However, very few men are turned on by a 300-pound woman, no matter how beautiful she is on the inside.  
 
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This is true, for many, but not all men. What you are describing is someone who is healthy, not anorexic or morbidly obese. However within that healthy range, is still a wide variation, dancer slim?, athlete muscular?, curvy?...it is personal taste. I will add, that some men like the less healthy heroin-chic look, or the big-beautiful type. It's a bell curve. Less at the extremes.
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I have found that most men like a woman with "a little meat on her bones". I've spoken to men and 99% say they'd rather hug a woman who's a little "fluffy" rather than a bag of bones. They don't like wrapping their arms around a skeleton. When it comes to men, neither do I. I prefer someone I can wrap my arms and not feel his ribs when I hug him. Besides, if one desires to do the horizontal mambo, those hipbones can be dangerous. However, very few men are turned on by a 300-pound woman, no matter how beautiful she is on the inside.
 
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you're absolutely correct... not many men would want a 300# woman
 
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Luv2RideHorses wrote :
if one desires to do the horizontal mambo

Are you implying you're available?
 
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westend_woman is offline westend_woman Post #5  July 2,2009, 10:43pm
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as far as I can tell, what mena really want is a woman that doesn't look better than they do...
but not worse either
 
that seems reasonable to me.....
 
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The part of this article i disagree with is that it's all up to you,that your image of yourself will dictate your image to others.I don't care what somebody thinks they look like,when i look at them i see what i see and it is not subject to anyone else's opinion,having a good self image is necessary to weather the storms of life but there is still a thing called free will and others have it to..these articles seem to say that you can go out and cast some kind of spell driven by your own ego and the other person will just fall into line.
 
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Dang, I'm just a stick man!
 
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Rob_UK is offline Rob_UK Post #8  July 3,2009, 3:59pm
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tosh...utter rot. If you go around talking to yourself then the "man in the van" will come for you. The simple fact is: put down the fork, step away from the pie and run your fat self around the block. Just more denial phrases.

yes some men will prefer a podgy woman but they are probably podgy themselves
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westend_woman wrote :
as far as I can tell, what mena really want is a woman that doesn't look better than they do...

but not worse either



that seems reasonable to me.....
I have no problem dating a woman higher on the 0-10 attractiveness score than me. Yes, a real attractive woman will be approached more. I guess it depends on how much attention she needs to make herself feel good about herself; however, that could be any person on a 0-10 score.
 
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Hmmmmm...didn't read the entire article, just the highlighted points, and quite frankly, I thought it sounded like they were talking to people who had body image issues as if they were impressionable children rather than adults facing the realities of the world. I don't like that, which is the reason I rarely read the articles that are posted here.

Take a look at my picture and you will see that I am not a skinny woman, nor am I obese. However, the men I meet very rarely take issue with my appearance, regardless of their size or shape. The very few who do usually have qualities that I do not aspire for in a potential mate, and I have a feeling if I was the glamourous woman they were seeking, I'd still fall short in their eyes in some way.

People have their preferences in who they wish to date, and that is fine; to each his/her own. I see it the same as I see other characteristics that I look for in a person: honesty, character, integrity, intelligence, values, and work ethic, to name some that rank high with me. A man can be so handsome that my heart skips a beat if he looks in my direction, but if there's nothing happening between his ears, I'm just not even remotely interested. Take a guy who might not be as handsome for whatever reason (weight included), and show me that he possesses these other qualities that mean so much to me, and I'm going to give him a chance to see if we click.

Does that mean I don't care about appearance at all? No, I do need to be attracted to a man, but in my own way. Looks will fade over time, and we're all going to be old and wrinkly one day no matter how much we fight it. If there's no substance behind a person when that happens, then it doesn't really matter what they once looked like or thought they looked like, because they aren't going to be quite the catch anymore. So then what? Dump 'em for a better model? I think not. It's not for me, anyway.

Just tossing my two cents in...
 
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