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pamcam is offline pamcam Post #11  July 3,2009, 8:35am
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Yes; this is a real woman as well. WHO WE ARE at our CORE transcends gender, yet b/c of our gender we were given and created w/ many valuable qualities and we are meant to share them. WE each want to give and receive the same "things," such as love, kindness, trust, appreciation, and respect. I wouldn't necessarily consider it an expectation, yet I very much appreciate and admire a man's physical strength; I don't possess it. I don't "know" what female qualities men appreciate and admire, but what we each have contributes to the whole.
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I suspect that they have a fantasy for the Marlboro man (for those old enough to remember the commercials). Or insert the current Hollywood macho action hero.

Or maybe they mean only guys with large attachments need apply.
 
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Yes; this is a real woman as well. It transcends gender, yet b/c of our gender we were given many valuable qualities and we are meant to share them. I wouldn't necessarily consider it an expectation, yet I very much appreciate and admire a man's physical strength; I don't possess it. I don't "know" what female qualities men appreciate and admire, but what we each have contributes to the whole.
I know that someone like D_Lion is going to pop in and say boobs. But I agree with you it is the whole not the individual items. For me one "whole" may be just as attractive as another "whole" yet the outward appearance between then two has no similarity.
 
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Whom ever put this in her profile or information would have "X-ed" me out had I been her match because of the PIC I posted of me which was taken after I had taken a hike in to see a very large Redwood Tree. I was standing between the two Douglas Fir Trees, was sweaty, obiously overweignt, and dishevled.
I don't drink beer, can take or leave sports on TV, and certain movies might bring tears to my eyes. I believe in treating a lady with respect. Only match I ever kissed was the one I later married. (We had met in person a few times before I kissed her.)
 
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GILKEY wrote :
Whom ever put this in her profile or information would have "X-ed" me out had I been her match because of the PIC I posted of me which was taken after I had taken a hike in to see a very large Redwood Tree. I was standing between the two Douglas Fir Trees, was sweaty, obiously overweignt, and dishevled.
I don't drink beer, can take or leave sports on TV, and certain movies might bring tears to my eyes. I believe in treating a lady with respect. Only match I ever kissed was the one I later married. (We had met in person a few times before I kissed her.)
That is sweet. I wish you and your wife a joyful life together!
 
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It is funny that the guys are thinking the "Marlboro Man" type as greatguy put it. I truly believe it is the PamCam definition that women mean.

I have something similar to "Real Men" in my profile but I think I put I was looking for one of the "good guys".

I remember having one match that asked what I meant. When I responded, I was thinking to myself - well, you probably aren't one if you have to ask what it means. lol!

Just wondering, in all honesty, don't you think that if we found the match a wee bit attractive, that barring glaringly obvious red flags we would communicate with them? And wouldn't the opposite be true too then? That if we do not find a match the least bit attractive, then we find so-called bad things in their profile?? Or is it just me that is shallow? lol!!
 
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who does what he says hes going to do 90% of the time
Darn, I have been giving up an extra 10% unnecessarily!
 
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lol D__Lion

90% works for me; it also applies to if a man is respectful, kind, thoughtful, etc. 90% of the time in words and actions; if "all" this is a consistent, reliable pattern; same applies for me, even as I understand and accept that there are times in life when we are doing well to be at even 10% "functionality."

To the sisterhood dear LizziePooh; I always enjoy reading your posts. As a side note, I would very much appreciate a man who asks, "what do you mean by that," as it fosters greater depth and understanding of who you are and where you are coming from. Language, words context mean different things to different people. I think it was very respectful and kind of him to ask. W/o "knowing" what another person means by something, it's hard to be on the same page, hence the importance of communciation, patience, listening and asking for clarification. To me, "what do you mean by this" demonstrates a gentleness and caring and a genuine real interest in getting to know me, in the same way I too would often ask what he means by something. W/o "this knowing," we can't love and accept a person for who another is; I want to know who he is and love and accept him.
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A real man to me is someone who knows who he is and is comfortable in his own skin; is self-confident; who does what he says hes going to do 90% of the time and who says what he means and means what he says. A real man is emotionally mature and honest and has the ability to communicate his vulnerabilities and insecurities and who is aware of his strengths and his limitations. A real man has integrity and stands firm in his beliefs and his values and doesn't sway like a leaf in the wind and faces life challenges. A real man has the ability to be intimate and fully present and available. A real man wants a real relationship where he too is responsible and accountable and who is equally respondent, attendant, and nurturant to my needs and feelings as I am to his. A real man is GENUINE.
What's a "real relationship"?
 
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Mayne wrote :
For those of you put in your profile that you're looking for a "REAL MAN", what do you mean?

If you want a "REAL MAN", does this mean I get to kick back and drink beer, belch, and scratch my private parts, while watching a football game and while you're in the kitchen cooking my dinner?

No, that would be a lazy bugger!
 
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