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Chefdean1964 is offline Chefdean1964 Post #1  June 28,2009, 2:12am
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I am a single masn who has spent the last 5 yrs finishing my college education so that I can venture into a lifelong dream of owning my own Italian Restaurtant, my problem is that I have been single for 4 years now and I am really kind of tired of it. I am an at6tractive man, 6 foot 2 inches, with a anverage build, and a very strong moral belief system. I believe in treating woman as equals, and have a great deal of respect but I keep falling into this "friend zone" There is nothing wrong with haveing friends of the opposite sex, but I am looking for a relationship with an attractive woman who takes care of herself physically , emotionallly, and spiritually who would like to share in my life, as well as my business venture eventually. I am ok being alone but it is to the point where I feel like I am missing a very important part of my life >>>>>a partner, someone to share my life with, and I have had a very hard time with it so anyone reading this who may be interested or can lead me in a better direction, I would appreciate it. I am down to earth and enjoy masny interests, and all my female friends tell me that they cant figure out whaqt is wrong because I am a wonderful man, with a lot of love and passion to share with the right woman. HELP

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I feel your pain. Sometimes I could just scream. Guess at this point all we can do is be patient....ugh
 
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"Friend zone" is a lack of chemistry - sex appeal, if you will.

I'd start with that.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
"Friend zone" is a lack of chemistry - sex appeal, if you will.

I'd start with that.
So is "chemistry" or "sex appeal" something that you can buy?

Where or how do I get it?
 
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Dean, I would start with the people in your 'friend zone' and other, long time, regular friends. These are the people who know you the best. These are the people who could, hopefully, give you some frank and helpful answers. Before you ask, just make sure you are prepared to receive what they might say because it may come as a surprise to you.

Next, ask some people you know who have recently gotten into relationships how it happened -- maybe there are some avenues of meeting people you haven't considered.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
"Friend zone" is a lack of chemistry - sex appeal, if you will.

I'd start with that.
Stop being such a tease, frog.
You need to elaborate here... I'm dying to know how you are going to get about generating chemistry
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
So is "chemistry" or "sex appeal" something that you can buy?

Absolutely, but I do not think you have to.

I think some portion of men do not have sufficient aggression at approaching women, and they are getting passed over (for sure, others have too much, but that is not germane.)

When you’re “not sure” about how to proceed, I suggest trying the more aggressive option in a slightly incremental way until you get to a point of negative feedback.
 
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There is really not enough information here on why you are being "friend zoned" (I can't believe I'm using these expressions)... You may be doing or not doing something specific that is not evident from your email.

You sounds like a very nice man, and as far as "chemistry", I don't often get that feeling either. But it's a feeling between two people, not you and the world. It either happens or it doesn't.

The benefit of having female friends is that they have usually have girlfriends. So stay friends and keep a roaming eye out
 
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D_Lion wrote :
When you’re “not sure” about how to proceed, I suggest trying the more aggressive option in a slightly incremental way until you get to a point of negative feedback.
Now I can't stop laughing...
Would you incrementally slap her on the face or bite her?
I have a feeling that a negative feedback may be generated sooner than you think.

Sorry frog, but I'm in a fit now. Please write a frog's manual to dating humans, I'll buy it, I promise.

OP, a sense of humor works absolute wonders. Even the serious and amphibious becomes much more appealing
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
So is "chemistry" or "sex appeal" something that you can buy?

Where or how do I get it?
They must be selling them at the frog prince store, and they give you a vile of incremental aggression as a bonus, should it ever be required, in case all that chemistry and sex appeal do not work for you

I'd better get out of here...
 
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