What You Can Learn From Your Ex

What You Can Learn From Your Ex

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Aussiegirrl is offline Aussiegirrl Post #81  January 20,2009, 4:22pm
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What have I learnt from my ex's? So many wonderous things!!


1. A relationship based on lies won't make you happy.


2. Drugs are bad for you. Don't take them.


3. You need to actually spend time together and speak to one another to make a relationship grow.


4. Mixed signals always spell trouble. Always. If someone says one thing but does the opposite, run like crazy to avoid any further contact with this person.


5. Don't lend anyone money. Tell them to go to a bank. Give them very detailed directions.


6. Always use a condom. If you don't use a condom, see your doctor the very next day. No exceptions.


7. Except all gifts graciously. They could be all you'll end up with!
 
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vlnman is offline vlnman Post #82  January 22,2009, 1:22pm
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Trust always....BUT....verify often
 
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ann123 is offline ann123 Post #83  February 3,2009, 5:18pm
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While I learned a lot, there is one that I wish I had learned before and not after the breakup. How can you tell they are psycho before you invest too much time and emotion?
 
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gmsteel is offline gmsteel Post #84  March 13,2009, 2:32pm
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Onesided feelings of love will not allow the relationship to work, both persons must have equal levels of love/feelings for the other, and should always be talked about.


As soon as there is'nt this equal level get out! It will only drag you down while the relationship breaks apart.
 
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kat_31 is offline kat_31 Post #85  March 16,2009, 7:47pm
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I met a guy who I thought was great, than became really abusive when he drank too much. Its going to be hard to trust another guy for a while now.
 
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heliza21 is offline heliza21 Post #86  March 22,2009, 10:32am
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This is pretty awsome! "What we can learn from our ex"I think is so true. Thank you for comfirming what Ifound out a few days ago. For me getting out of an healthyrelationshiphas been a challenge in the past. Now, I amworking on taking the time toknow my potential partners better,falling in love with my head first instead of my heart. I am thankful for eharmony. My membership has been so worth it.
 
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carolinagirl3206 is offline carolinagirl3206 Post #87  March 22,2009, 1:28pm
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Its always a good idea to look back on past relationships and go over what did go wrong. imstill young, however my past relationship was 3 and 1/2 years. he was the perfect boyfriend but when we graduated high school, he changed. so another year goes by and he cheats on me with my best friend and i forgave him because he pleaded me back and promised me he would never do it again. I should have listened to my instincts and my gut, but i was in love with him. Soi did and he ended up leaving me for my best friend last march. it the so hard, i was angry, but now when i look back on everything and our relationship...there was soo many problems. i am a much stronger women and i know now how to treat myself, and i know how i want my next boyfriend to treat me. i have soo much more respect for myself and i know i deserve to be happy! i definitely learned ALOT from my ex and i am grateful that i can look back and have no regrets but look into the future and i see myself to be a better person because of him...
 
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Not to be in the same room with her.
 
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germantowner is offline germantowner Post #89  March 24,2009, 7:36am
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Watch how the person you are seeing treats his/her Mother, waiters in restaurants, people in general that are in the service business & a rung or several below him / her socially & financially. That is how he / she will treat you eventually. In the beginning, we all have the wine goggles on or the rose colored glasses.
 
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I think I've come away with several things.


First and foremost, don't date your best friend, even if you both swear things will go back to normal after the breakup, especially if she is the only female best friend you have, as losing that friendship will leave you without a best friend you can vent to. [Guys dont generally vent/show that they are emotional with other men.]


Second, if you aren't the jealous type, and in reality [almost] never get jealous, sometimes you should probably pretend to be jealous anyway. The other party will a) flirty with less people, b) take it as a sign that you care, and c) be less likely to find some other guy and wind up leaving you for him, because she will be aware that you are monitoring who she flirts with [as compared to not getting jealous and she believing its okay to flirt with whoever she wants however often she wants].


Third, its REALLY hard to get back to trusting someone enough to be their friend when they betray you by leaving you for someone else.
 
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